Wednesday, April 19, 2017

Role Playing

Sexually speaking, there are literally thousands of various things you can do. Some are simple, like teasing a man's penis until he begs you to let him ejaculate. Some are more complex and require some kind of set up before you can actually do anything, such as, role play. If you enjoy teasing your partner in many different ways, including psychological teasing, then role play may be just the thing for few hours of fun.

What is role play, exactly? Simply put, role play is acting. You act out a non-scripted scene with your partner during which you use sexual teasing as the basic premise. That is, you play the part of an authority figure, a cop, a terrorist, a teacher, or a home invader, to mention a few. Your partner will play the role of your “victim” whom you are going to sexually tease and/or torment.

Basically, you will be in control. You will guide the scene so that it goes the way you initially planned it, or a reasonable facsimile of it. During the course of your session you will tease and/or torment your partner sexually in any way that you both enjoy. But there is an added aspect over just putting on the bed and playing with his body. That aspect is that you can become someone else. Someone who can do and say things to heighten your partners sexual enjoyment as well as your own.

Role play can be a great diversion from what you might normally do. An exciting change to put a little more sexually exciting action into your, otherwise, boring routine. It allows you to play a part that is (or is not) in your nature. Do something new and exciting for the both of you.

Become a cop to your partner's criminal ways and interrogate him. Or make him tell you where he has hidden the loot he stole. Or be a home invader who takes him captive and has her way with him. Whatever strikes your mood. Have fun with it, but always be safe. Use safe-words!

Yes, you can do this. It is all in how you approach it. If you go into it with the idea that it will be fun for the both of you, and not like you have to “perform” for your partner, then you will both enjoy the experience. Give it a try.

Mistress Ivey

Wednesday, April 12, 2017

Post Orgasm Torture

I have a complaint... I have searched many video sites for a decent (accurately portrayed) video of Post Orgasm Torture (POT), but it seems the video “tubes” out there don't really understand it. So...

Once again I find myself trying to accurately describe something without a decent video to make it all clear. First of all, stroking your partner's penis after he has ejaculated, is NOT POT! POT is continuing direct stimulation of the head of his penis immediately after ejaculation. Not ten seconds after, or even five seconds after. Immediately after! In fact, it may help if you begin while he is still ejaculating. Use his own semen as lubrication. That works very well. The head of his penis should be well lubricated. If it is not, chances are you will only irritate his penis instead of stimulating it.

Not every male's penis is the same, duh. Therefore, POT will not feel the same to every man. To some, it may actually be quite painful, but to most, it will simply be extremely sensitive. Either way, he will fight you on it. POT didn't get it's name from being a nice “pleasant” feeling. It is like over-stimulating that part of his penis that he likes to have stimulated in the first place. Note, I said, “over-stimulating”.

I highly recommend using some type of bondage if you intend to try POT on your guy. He will, undoubtedly, fight to get loose and stop your from stimulating his penis after he ejaculates. If you are doing it right, he will fight. So, at the very least, you should bind his hands so that he can't stop you. He may, buck violently, twist and turn, shout at you, and even hurt himself in his attempt to stop the assault. So be prepared for that.

All in all, Post Orgasm Torture can be a fun way to add a little excitement to your play-time. If nothing else, it can be used as a punishment for any guy who ejaculates before you wanted him to. The .gif above shows the proper method for POT.

Mistress Ivey

Wednesday, April 5, 2017

More on Fantasies

As you have probably guessed, men's fantasies are extremely important when it comes to tease and denial. You don't even have to be in the same room with your partner if you can find a way to stimulate his libido with a fantasy. You don't even have to tell him an entire fantasy. Once you know a few of his favorite ones, or have planted a few of your own, all you need to do is remind him of one of them and he will become turned on, no matter where he is or what else he might be doing at the time.

Most men have such vivid imaginations, at least when it comes to sexual activities, that they can often think of nothing else once their mind gets focused on a fantasy. Let's take Bob, for example. (Bob is fictional, by the way.) His wife sent him a text that read simply, “Jane is coming over for dinner and I want you to serve us. You will wear only your chastity device and nothing else.” She sent this text about 10:am, while Bob was at work, and by the time poor Bob got home, he was almost frantic. He had a hard-on that just wouldn't quit, even though it was limited by his chastity device.

He didn't know if his wife was serious about Jane coming to dinner, or that he would be expected to serve it to the wearing only his chastity device. Why? Because his wife would not answer her phone or reply to any of his text messages all day. To make things worse, when he finally arrive home, Bob's wife ordered him to strip naked, except for the chastity device, of course, and start preparing dinner.

Bob had no idea that his wife had not, in fact, invited her friend Jane for dinner. Poor Bob didn't know that until dinner was ready to be served. His wife made him serve it to her, dressed the way he was, and Bob loved every minute of it.

After dinner, Bob and his wife discussed what had happened. She discovered that poor Bob was scared to death that he was going to have to serve dinner to his wife's friend as directed. He had been quite turned on by it all day. In the back of his mind, he thought his wife would surely not make him do it. But the closer dinner time came, the more excited Bob got.

My point of this story is simple... It is so easy to put your partner's fantasies to use that you would be crazy not to do it every now and then.

Mistress Ivey

Wednesday, March 29, 2017

True Power

Almost every woman knows that when her partner has a hard cock and has been brought to the edge of ejaculation, he is at his weakest. But few women seem to fully understand the true power they hold in their hands at that very moment.

You may not be in the mood for a full fledged female led relationship, or even simple chastity. You may not want to be a keyholder, but whether you like it or not, you are one. At that moment, just before he ejaculates, you hold the keys to his continued happiness. Should you continue, and finish him off? Or, perhaps, you could hold him off for just a few moments while you extract a small reward from him, before allowing him to ejaculate.

The choice is yours, and yours alone! Suppose you have been wanting a piece of jewelry. This would be the perfect time to ask him for it. Maybe you have been wanting him to take you out to a nice dinner somewhere. Again, this is the perfect time to secure what you want. Once you allow him to ejaculate, it's too late to ask him for what you want. He has no more incentive to grant your wishes.

So, armed with this information, you can see how you hold true power over him. Deny him his ejaculation until you have secured what you want. We all know that if you want multiple orgasms, you are going to have to get them BEFORE he ejaculates, or you may have to use that trusty vibrator on yourself.

So, whether you want more orgasms, a new car, or a nice diamond bracelet, get it before you allow him to have his orgasm and you will feel the true power you hold over him. The more you deny him, the more he will do for you. It's that simple.

Mistress Ivey

Wednesday, March 22, 2017

Things Man Love to Hate

This is a list of things that man hate to do, but love to be “forced” to do them by their Mistress. Sometimes only fantasy is enough, but there may come a time when the fantasy is not enough. It all depends on your guy. Simply talking to your partner can often reveal things that you never thought of before. Communication is the key to pushing his fantasies in the direction you want them to go.

Remember, you don’t have to tell him a complete fantasy, simply suggest an activity that will arouse him and he will take it from there. Try one of these, for example. If the fantasy goes well, you may want to try it out for real. Again, it all depends on what things really turn him on and what he (or you) would prefer to keep as fantasies.

·       Masturbate for Mistress
o   In order to do this properly, the Mistress should actually direct the masturbator by telling him when to speed up, slow down, go faster, don’t cum, and things such as that.
o   Though this is very humiliating to do without direction, it is also very difficult to do unless the masturbator loves performing in front of an audience.
·       Drink Ejaculate
o   Remember, it’s all in how you make it happen. If he likes the taste, and many men do, then making him drink it isn’t so bad. But if he doesn’t, then it becomes something that he only enjoys because Mistress is making him do it.
o   Putting it in his coffee, freezing it for later, collecting a larger quantity in the refrigerator, are all ways of making it more humiliating.
·       Pegging
o   Some men love to be pegged. But if you put the right fantasy with it, it can become something he loved to hate. For example, tell him you are going to invite a friend over to do it for real.
o   Add a second woman to make it more humiliating.
·       Sucking Cock
o   Whether or not the Mistress actually wants her guy to suck another man’s cock is irrelevant. It is the fantasy that gets many men turned on. The threat that Mistress might just make it happen.
o   Making him practice with a dildo or two from time to time can add to his enjoyment of the fantasy.
·       Cross-Dressing
o   This is another area that some men may be afraid to confess enjoying. They may have never done it, but that may be because no one ever “forced” them to do it.
o   Cross-dressing in public make a great fantasy for men who enjoy doing it in private. Or maybe, the fantasy of performing sexual acts with other men while cross-dressing appeals to him.

If you put your mind to it, and talk with your partner about as many different things as you can think of, you may come up with a few of your own.

Mistress Ivey

Wednesday, March 15, 2017

Using Fantasies

In all my books, and in many previous posts, I have talked about the importance of fantasies in a Female Led Relationship. I have talked about how they relate to his arousal. How to use them to increase his enjoyment. How to increase your partner’s frustration and arousal with them. What I have not really addressed is exactly how you can relate or nurture a fantasy while teasing your partner. What do you say? Do you have to recite a fantasy as though reading him a story?

The answer to those questions is really more simple than you think. You don’t have to tell him an entire fantasy. You don’t have to read or recite any fantasies for him. What you have to do is plant the seeds, nurture them, and watch them grow.

So how does one implant a fantasy in one’s partner? Simply by feeding a little bit of it to his imagination and letting him (or it) do all the work. If you tell your partner that you are going to do something “special” for his birthday. Maybe even allow him an orgasm. He will wonder exactly what you have in mind for him. However, he will be left on his own to come up with a fantasy to fill that void. That is a very bad thing!

“Why is it a bad thing to let his imagination run wild?” You may very well ask that question. The answer is simple… You will never be able to live up to the fantasy he came up with. First of all, leaving him to his own devices, his own imagination without guidance, means that he is free to think whatever he wants.

Suppose you did that very bad thing. You may be planning a special tease session, using his favorite tease methods, and you intend for it to last about thirty to forty-five minutes. But because you left it all up in the air, he may come up with a scenario in which you make him stand in front of you, stark naked, and masturbate at your direction. His fantasy may take hours to actually complete. Now when you proceed to tie him down on his birthday, he will not be getting what he has been dreaming (fantasizing) about for the last month. He will feel let down.

However, if you plant your own fantasy in his head, you will insure that he is on the right track. It would be advantageous of you to add a little to the fantasy from time to time. Suppose you start his fantasy out by saying, “I am planning on giving you a special tease session that will end with you having a terrific orgasm.” And you leave it at that. You have started out in the right direction, but you must add to it before he lets it get away from him (or you).

Say, there is a week until his birthday. On the day after you initiated his fantasy, you now tell him that you plan to use a certain toy that you know he likes. Tell him how you will use it. Make sure that you don’t give him too much information, though. You might say something like, “I am going to use the big vibrator on you. But I am going to do it very lightly. So lightly that it will drive you insane.”

Now, you have planted the right seed. It will grow in the right direction. He will imagine you doing exactly what you said you would, but he can’t imagine anything else. It will keep him aroused all week long. Of course, from time to time, you can add little hints like, “You love it when I drag that big vibrator slowly across your anus, don’t you?” in order to keep him focused on that particular fantasy.

Now, while you are actually teasing him, that is, when he is bound to the bed, a chair, or the dining room table, you want to use fantasies in a completely different way. This time you want his imagination to run wild, so you don’t have to tell him an entire fantasy yourself. Besides, when you do that, you are telling him YOUR fantasy, not one of his. So here is how you do that…

Now that you have him at your mercy and you are teasing him in some way, whether you are stroking his cock or running an ice cube up and down his body, doesn’t matter. You simply need to implant the seed and let him take it from there. For example, you might say, “Imagine that you are in a castle bound to a big wooden table. There are lots of scary implements hanging on the walls. I am not there. Someone else is tormenting your body, not me. Tell me, what do you think she might do to you?”

Now you have set up the fantasy, let him take it wherever he wants it to go. Maybe adjust your teasing to fit his fantasy. If he seems to get stuck for what to say, prompt him. “The woman in this fantasy has just picked up a large, very sharp, knife.” Then you can let him tell you what she does with the knife while you use an ice cube to make it feel as if he is being cut just as the fantasy says. (Now do you see why I insist that a blindfold is so important?)

Maybe, during your next tease session, you can simply ask him to tell you about any one of his own fantasies. Remember, don’t judge him! Fantasies are just that… Fantasies. But you can find out more about the kinds of things that you might be able to use in the future, either as methods of teasing, or to implant a fantasy of your own.
Happy fantasizing!

Mistress Ivey