Wednesday, February 22, 2012

Not In Your Butt!

Ladies and gentlemen, it has come to my attention that many of you enjoy (or would like to enjoy) anal sex of some sort. That is, the realm of male chastity (not to mention tease and denial) often includes some sort of anal play. While in and of itself, anal play is not a bad thing, you need to be careful what you put in your guy's ass.

Let's face it, it can be very tempting to use ordinary household items. Some may seem like a good idea at the time, but rest assured, most can have negative results. I know, if you happen to be into humiliation, there is nothing quite as humiliating as a trip to the emergency room to remove that jar of peanut butter you shoved into your guy's ass and just can't seem to retrieve, now.

Watch this video and you will see what I mean.

Now that you have an idea of what NOT to put into your butt, let me give you some suggestions as to what you CAN put there. My store carries a full line of Tantus(R) products designed for use by both male and female users. If you want to put something in your butt, I highly recommend you try one these products instead of what you find around the house.

Tantus products are all designed to be of the highest quality. That means that they will be comfortable (or as comfortable as an anal device can be), and will last you a good long time. In fact, I have used many of the Tantus products and I believe that, even though you might be able to purchase a similar product for less, you can't match the quality. And let's face it, quality counts. Especially when you are going to insert it into your (or your partner's) body.

We also carry a full line of lubricants. You are going to need one! The rule of thumb for using lubricants for any anal activity is: When you think you have enough, double it! That basically means that you can't have too much lubrication when it comes to anal sex.

Have fun, and be safe. Don't end up at the ER!

Mistress Ivey

P.S. If you start out with the Cowboy, don't try to push it ALL THE WAY IN the first time!

Monday, February 20, 2012

Safe Sex Tease?

Okay, maybe using a condom during teasing is not what people are referring to when they talk about safe sex. But... Have you ever tried teasing his cock with a condom on it? Maybe you should.

Condoms come in all types (lubricated, ribbed and even flavored) and styles. If you plan to use them for teasing you don't want any of that nasty-tasting spermicide on them. Trust me, it is nasty-tasting! If your guy has a tendency to spurt before you are ready, a condom might be just the thing. After all, regardless of what the manufacturers may tell you, they do reduce sensitivity. Of course, the more you apply, the less sensitive he will be.

Now don't get me wrong, I am not saying that you want to put ten or twelve condoms on your guy and eliminate him feeling anything. Far from it. I am only suggesting that there are many reasons you might want to use a condom while teasing him. Let me explain, aside from the fact that it can delay his orgasm (which is a good reason to use one), a condom can be used to eliminate having to clean up every time you ruin an orgasm. Especially if you intend to continue and ruin a few more.

Condoms work very well for prostate milking, too. After all, just how easy is it to catch all that cum in a little cup? And just think, when you are done, he can drink it right from the condom. It's a bit more humiliating that way, but hey, why not? After all, many men love to be humiliated.

Have you ever given a guy blow-job while he was wearing a condom? It's little different, but it works. It just takes longer, that's all. But then, if you are teasing him (and that IS what we are talking about here, isn't it?) you want it last a good long time without fear of an “accident.” Condoms are good for a great number of things. Use them to cover any toy that you are going to insert (no mater where you are going to insert it). It's cleaner and safer that way. Besides, cleanup is a breeze!

Here's a little video to demonstrate what I mean. Sorry the quality isn't that good, but videos like this are very hard to find.

I am sure you can think of ways to use a condom that I have not mentioned here. If so, drop me a line or post a comment and tell me about it.

Mistress Ivey

Tuesday, February 14, 2012

Finger Touch Tease

The video below is my first attempt at embedding a video into my blog. This particular video demonstrates how to perform a one (or two) finger tease. As tease and denial videos go, the are actually very few that don't end in an orgasm. Be that as it may, many do show ruined orgasms and are, therfore, applicable to this blog.

In the video below, I want you to pay particular attention to two things: 1) Watch how the woman uses one or two fingers to tease her victim's penis. It's very good example how to touch certain sensitive spots that will give you the reactions you want, and; 2) Notice how the victim's penis reacts when this woman touches those sensitive spots. His reactions are, for the most part, uncontrollable. They are simply natural reactions that he has no control over. 

All in all, this video is an excellent example of how little you need to do to get your man to the point of no return. What you do then is up to you. If you want to keep your guy on edge, just give his cock a few seconds to rest every now and then. You can see how this works if you pay close attention to the video. If you want to ruin his orgasm (perhaps several in a row), simply stop when you think he is about to ejaculate. If you stop too soon, no harm done. he simply won't ejaculate. If you stop too late, he still might not have a full orgasm because you did stop. This is an excellent method for learning exactly when to stop whether you are trying to edge him or ruin his orgasms.

I hope this video will make your tease and denial sessions more successful.

Mistress Ivey

Monday, February 13, 2012

Light Tease Example

I finally found a really good training video that shows how to do what I have been trying to teach women to do ever since I started this blog. I think you guys will like this one too.

This is a 16 minute video with one ruined orgasm and one full orgasm at the end (both optional, of course). But there are several things I want you to notice while watching this video. First of all, she does not use the lubrication that I recommend, but she still achieves the same goal. That is, she doesn't touch him firmly enough (during most of the video) to even move the skin of her 'victim's' cock. That is the best way to perform this type of teasing.

Let's face it, unless you are trying to produce an orgasm, perhaps so that you can ruin it, you don't want to touch him with anything more than a feather touch. The point of this type of cock tease is to make him want to feel your touch more than you are permitting him to feel. It will drive him crazy with desire for a firmer touch. So if your goal is tease and denial, then you this is the best way to achieve those results.

I also want you to notice that his first (ruined orgasm) is very slight. He seems to get only one small dribble. He does produce a great deal of precum. You can see this if you watch closely enough. Remember, you will only get a drop or two of precum every once in awhile during this kind of tease session.

Whether you use lubrication or not, it doesn't hurt to take a break every so often in order to let his desire (or immediate need to orgasm) to wane just a bit. This will produce a great deal more precum because each time he is re-aroused, he will (or should) produce it. You can fondle his balls, nipples, thighs, or any other part of his body during these short breaks from teasing his cock. Use your imagination, and pay attention to his reactions to everything you do.

Another point of interest is how this woman continues to tease her guy after his ruined orgasm. You will notice that he never loses any of his erection at this point. I think one of the key things that women (and men, for that matter) tend to forget is that an orgasm (even a full one) does not have to signal the end of the tease session. This is important because, you want to get away from that kind of thinking. Just because he has an orgasm (even if you fail to ruin it) doesn't mean that you have to stop teasing him. I'm not saying that you can totally avoid that post-orgasm depression that all men experience. But the sooner you begin to rebuild his desire, the better.

So watch this video and take notes. You may be able to get some really good tips of your own if you pay close attention. Most of all, have fun with your tease and denial sessions. That's what they are there for!

Mistress Ivey

P.S. If you are interested, you can get the cock ring in this video Here.