Monday, November 29, 2010

Easy Teases

Of course, with all cock teasing, whether the objective is to tease and deny, ruin an orgasm, or even allow a full orgasm, it's good to talk... Constantly! After all, 90% of teasing is psychological. In this writing I intend to cover some simple methods of cock teasing with the specific intent of denying your partner an orgasm. In other words, these methods are intended to end without ejaculation. In fact, Some of them will not even get him close enough to call it edging. Once you have your guy bound to a chair, the bed, or to a wall, you are ready to begin...

The Brush Tease:
Almost any soft brush will work. If you don't own one, you can pick up a soft paint brush (from 1 to 2 inches wide) at any paint or hardware store. Get the softest and narrowest one you can find. If you have the money, a large sable brush (available at your local art store) is an excellent choice, though they are often expensive.

What you want to do is gently stroke the underside of his cock with the brush. Use the lightest stroke you can, especially at the beginning of your session. You can use heavier strokes as the session progresses. Pay special attention to the very sensitive area just below the tip. Press hard enough to make his cock “jump” if you can. That means he can not only feel it, but you are really getting to him.

You can keep this type of cock teasing up for as long as you like and the odds are he will never reach a point where he will be able to cum. But it will drive him crazy. Don't be shy. You can tease his nipples and other erogenous zones if they are sensitive enough.

Wednesday, November 17, 2010

List of Punishments

Here is a list of punishments for those of you who need help in putting some variety into your play. Whether you are punishing him for transgressions or you simply want to enjoy giving him a little pain along with his pleasure, it really doesn't matter. I just wanted to give you a list of ideas to help you out.

•    Spank or whip him. (wooden spoon, hairbrush, belt, ruler, ping pong paddle, or buy a paddle)
•    Tie him in an uncomfortable position and scold him for his misdeeds.
•    Tie his ankles together and attach his balls to them. Let him lay there and think about his mistakes.
•    Hog tie him. (wrists and ankles all tied together)
•    Hang him from the wall by his wrists. (you can get over-the-door hooks anywhere)
•    Tie him in a chair with his knees pulled up to his shoulders. This is good for spanking because everything is exposed and vulnerable.
◦    Use a small plastic swizzle stick (or a large dildo) to probe his ass.
◦    Wear rubber gloves and give him a slow, prolonged anal exam with one or even two fingers.
•    Take each ball in a separate hand and rest them on your open palms. Tell him that these use to be his but they belong to you now, to use, or play with as you please. Jiggle them in your palms, cup each hand around them and squeeze very slowly and somewhat gently, but until you see him grimace. Ask him who owns these things now.
•    Tie up his balls and cock with a long leather thong, clothes line, or boot lace. Use a long piece, and wrap his cock and balls repeatedly (but not too tightly).
•    Tie tight loops around his shaft from base to tip then tie the ends off back between his legs and up to a belt or to his handcuffs. Use a needle to scrap along his shaft lightly, and poke his bottom a few times.
•    Attach clothes pins or nipple clips to his nipples, balls, cock or wherever.
•    Put a butt plug in his ass. Make him wear it all day or take him shopping with it in.
•    Get out the strap-on and make him suck it or fuck him with it.
•    Give him an enema.
•    Make him wear a cock cage. One that locks!
•    Don't give him permission to cum. Deny him orgasms for a long period of time.
•    Put Ben-gay or Icy-Hot on his penis and nipples.
•    Put Ben-gay or Icy-Hot on his hand then make him masturbate.
•    Drip candle wax on his cock and balls (from at least 15 inches up).
•    Make him do exercises (jumping jacks, leg spreads, squats,aerobics...) while naked.
•    Grab him by his ears and pull his head down between your legs and make him service you.
•    Make him purchase a blow up doll from the local sex shop. Have him bring it into the living room, blow it up and set it on the coffee table.
◦    Don't say anything about it for an hour or so, then have him strip and fondle him till he is hard.
◦    Make him mount the doll and screw it while you watch (or video tape him).
◦    You could paddle him, or tickle his ass cheeks with a long feather if you like.
◦    Make him talk to her, give her a name and say sexy things to her while he is humping her.
◦    Have him do it until he cums and tease him about what a little stud he is.
◦    Tell him you may let your girlfriend (whoever) watch this one time, or how the guys at work would love to see this.
This last bunch is more of a humiliation, but if he doesn't want the photos or videos published, it becomes a punishment.
I hope you get the idea here. Anything you want to do is okay as long as it won't cause him any permanent harm. Please write me (or comment) if you would like to share your experiences with my readers. Please be safe, but enjoy yourself!

Mistress Ivey

Monday, November 15, 2010

A List of Teases

I get so many letters from women asking for ideas of ways they can tease their sub/slaves. I have given some ideas in other posts, but here is a list of things you can do if you run out of ideas. Many of these may not appeal to you, but perhaps you can use them to come up with ideas of your own.

  • Make him strip naked and stand with his legs apart while you sit in a chair in front of him with your clothes on. Make him masturbate in front of you till he is ready to cum then make him stop. After a few minutes make him repeat the procedure.
  • Have him kneel before you and worship your feet. Make him lick them and kiss and suck on your toes and spend some time doing this.
  • Have him kiss your ass...make him beg to kiss your ass. Have him tell you that he wants to be your "ass slut" and tease him about this. Don't let him have you right away, wait until he pleads with some seriousness in his voice.
  • Tie his hands behind him and have him remove your panties with his teeth.
  • Tie his hands behind his back. Have him kneel with knees spread naked in front of you while you read or watch TV. Tell him to keep his eyes lowered. Occasionally, nudge and tease his balls and penis with your shoes. You can wear high heels if you like
  • Use some thick yarn and tie a slip noose in the end... tighten it around the head of his penis, tug on it, pull it shake it, lead him with it, whatever you please.
  • Show your slave your panty crotch, make him smell it, but no touching.
  • Tie your slave spread-eagle to the bed and tease him for hours. Use ice cubes on his balls, warm massage oil to masturbate him slowly, etc... Make sure he has a big hard on, but once he does, only touch it when he needs just a little more encouragement, don't let him cum.
  • Put on his favorite lingerie or dominant costume and tease him with it.
  • Scratch him with your finger nails, tickle him, run a feather up and down the inside of his thighs, pinch his nipples, generally torment him, and keep him aroused, but no cumming till you are ready to allow it.
  • Sit on his chest and find out what he would do to be allowed to kiss your nipple..let him almost kiss it but pull away, make him beg.
  • Take a break, put some worn panties over his face and leave the room for a while and let him think about what else you might do.
  • Squat above his face, make him reach with his tongue to taste you, or your panties... Make him promise you anything.
  • Blindfold him and make him lick you to several orgasms. Take a break, come back and do it all again.
  • Rub his face against your pussy or sit on his face, but gag him with your panties or a gag so that he can't lick you.
  • Tie his balls off to something behind him so he has to tug on them to smell your panties or kiss your ass... Stay just out of reach.
  • Tie his balls with some thick yarn and attach the end of that to an object with a little weight, like a hammer, or a weight from a weight lifting set, make him drag this across the floor behind him while you walk beside him and hit his bottom with a switch.
  • Masturbate in front of him. Use a dildo or a vibrator, but don't let him touch you or himself.
  • Put the base of the dildo in his mouth and make him satisfy you with it. Do it so his nose presses between your ass cheeks. Make him lick the dildo clean.
  • Tie him down to the bed with one hand free. Make him masturbate but do not give him permission to cum with harsh punishments for disobedience.
  • Make him wear a cock ring, get him hard, and then snap the end of a riding crop (or plastic fly swatter) down firmly across just the tip of his penis.
  • Bind his hands behind him. Attach a cup or shot-glass to his cock. Make him watch his favorite porno flick or video on the web. Collect as much pre-cum as you can. What you do with it then is up to you.
I hope this list will be of some help to you. Feel free to pass it one to your friends, or better yet, send them a link to my blog. [smile]

Mistress Ivey

Saturday, November 13, 2010

A List of Humiliations

Humiliation seems to be most women's biggest hangup when it comes to controlling their sub/slaves. So here is a short list of humiliating things you can use to tease and please your sub/slave. Many of these may not appeal to you and that's okay. Just do whatever you like and leave the rest. Send me any ideas of your own, tell me what works for you.

Once he'll "do anything to please you" here are some ideas that will keep your submissive attentive and in his proper place, and will hopefully be entertaining for you as well.

  • Make him wear Your panties or lingerie, dress him up as a little girl or a French maid, have him serve you dinner or bring you a drink while you read or watch TV. When you have no need for him he can stand in the corner with his nose pressed against the wall.
  • Make him do housework naked or dressed in women's clothes.
  • Make him hand wash your panties and lingerie.
  • Ride him around as your pony boy... Spurs? A riding crop?
  • Make him wear a collar and lead him around with a leash like a dog, he can even eat dinner from a dog dish on his knees at your side when you are at the table.
  • Attach a leash to his balls or a cock ring, and lead him around with that.
    • Tie it off in front of the sink while he does the dishes.
    • Tie it to the foot of the bed when you go to sleep at night.
  • Dress him up like the slut that he is, wear a strap-on dildo and make him beg to suck it. Fuck him with it.
  • Make him wear your panties or lingerie under his regular clothes when he goes out or goes to work so that he will think of his Mistress constantly.
  • If he is horny and you are not, make him strip and kneel silently in front of you and order him to stay erect, but don't allow him to cum.
  • Make him masturbate for you, make him beg for permission to cum, don't let him, punish him if he does.
  • Make him earn his rewards; for example:
    • Allow him to kiss your ass after the dishes are done.
    • 1 minute of pleasure for him for 10 minutes of yours.
    • 5 minutes of pleasure for him after he makes you cum 3 times.
    • Spank him 10 times for each minute it takes him to masturbate to orgasm.
  • If you think he's earned an orgasm, make him cum on your feet or on your heels or in a dish or on your ass and then make him lick you clean.
  • Don't let him masturbate or touch his cock for 4 or 5 days. Make him go and get a small saucer from the kitchen and kneel in front of you and masturbate, his cum to be shot in the small saucer. Let him lick up his own cum.
  • Order him to bring himself to the edge of orgasm and stay there until you give him permission to cum. When you give the command he must cum within 10 seconds or he will be punished or not allowed to cum at all that day.
  • If he's really horny and bothering you, you may want to curb his interest by ordering him to jerk off 2 or 3 times in a day, or you can do this for him... There are a variety of things that can be used to create different sensations... Gloves, cremes, creme with coffee grounds on the hand, nylon sleeves, etc...
  • Make him lick you clean after sex.
  • When you go out, order him to tie himself up, be naked or dressed up as a girl and be kneeling at the door for when you arrive home.
  • Make him think of a new way for You to humiliate him.
Humiliation is such a widespread fantasy, and there are so many different variations of what humiliates any particular person. It would be good to have him write some fantasies for you so that you have some idea of what you can use in real life.
Remember to have fun with it!

Mistress Ivey

Sunday, November 7, 2010

Doing Humiliation Right

I'm not talking about face slapping, name calling, or boot licking. The kind of humiliation I am talking about would more accurately be called embarrassment. When a sub (or slave) is required by the Dominant to do something that is embarrassing to them, perhaps in public, at an event, or even in private, it can be very humiliating for them. This is what I am talking about and it is something quite often misunderstood.

There are three very important factors that need to be addressed if a Dominant wants to humiliate his/her sub successfully.

  1. It must be an action that the sub secretly (deep down inside) wants to be forced to do.
  2. It must be something that the sub would likely never actually do on their own.
  3. It must NOT cause the sub any real harm (physical OR psychological)!

By “forced,” I mean they must be encouraged properly. A Dominant's order is a very good incentive for a sub. For example: It is common for a male sub to want to taste his own cum. But many would never do it on their own because it would be too embarrassing, especially in front of someone else. If the Dominant orders him to do it, then he has the incentive he needs to follow through. He will get a thrill from having been “forced” to do it (even if he hates the taste).

Each sub (male or female) has their own desires as far as humiliation goes. It is a Dominant's job to discover what these things are. Once known, the Dominant can use the information for many joyous activities. There are a number of ways to find out just what these secret desires are. One good way would be to have your sub fill out a BDSM check list such as the one found on Soul's Haven web site. You can prepare your own questionnaire for the submissive to fill out privately. Another excellent way to discover what your subs secret desires are is to have him/her write (email is good for this) fantasies from time to time. Don't try to overwhelm him by ordering a fantasy a day. Spread them out, maybe one a week would be a good place to start.

Once you have a good idea what kinds of things your sub finds humiliating you can work up some good scenarios to put him/her through their paces.

For more information on fantasies and how to use them, Click Here.

Good luck.

Mistress Ivey