Starting Out

For most of you, this is all old stuff. That is, you may have already set up your Female Lead Relationship, or taken charge of your sex-lives, or whatever it is you needed to do to get where you are today, relationship-wise. But for those of you who have been sitting on the fence, or trying to figure out where to get the inner strength to take charge, this may be what you have been waiting for.

Let's start at the beginning... Maybe your hubby has been after you to take charge. Maybe he has pushed one or more of my books under your nose in an attempt to get you to read them. Maybe you have even read one or two, but still haven't convinced yourself that you can actually do it. Well, you won't have to wait after reading this post.

Whether or not your husband has been after you to take the lead in one way or another, let me give you some tips in which you can approach this that fits in with your idea of how things should be. You don't have to live up to some Internet-driven image of what a real Mistress is. You don't even have to try and please your husband by doing what he wants. Instead, try doing a few things that YOU want to do.

My Next Book

I am posting this since I need YOUR help in writing my next book. It is going to be a book about what different women do to sexually tease their partners. I want to hear from those of you who have found a special way of teasing or denying your partner. I want to know what works for you and, perhaps, how you found that particular method.

My next book will contain information gathered from you, the people out there practicing sexual control over their partner. Do you use chastity? If so, how did you get your partner to wear a chastity device? Was the idea yours or his? Does your wife have a special way of teasing you that drives you insane? What does she make you do in order to earn an orgasm?

Do you use some special milking technique? Or, perhaps you have found a very effective way of controlling when he gets to have an orgasm, and what type you allow him to have. I want to know what works for you. In what ways do you use humiliation? Punishment? Discipline? And do you use rewards?

This next book will be mostly written by those of you who are brave enough to write and tell me about it. Don't worry, your name, along with any other identifying information, will be changed to safeguard your identity. Please, take a few minutes to write me and let me know what works for you and your partner. More information may be obtained on this page. Or email your ideas to: iveys.book@gmail.com.

Thank you,

Mistress Ivey

Giving Thanks

Sitting on my bed this morning, as I often do, trying to decide whether to write a blog post or another chapter in my latest book, I wonder what my life would have been like if I had not met the man I now call husband.

My childhood was spent being beaten with belts, drop cords, and wire coat-hangers. I gave birth to my first child while his father was in prison and I lived on the streets. I gave him up for adoption, because I wanted a better life for him than I felt I could give him.

I took up with another man. Another child was born. The beatings continued.

Several years later, after moving in with that man, who would not marry me, but who had fathered my second child, the beatings changed. They were not eliminated, merely changed to fists. I thought this was not only my lot in life, but something I deserved. I didn't know why, but I must deserve it.

New Book

I know there are many women out there who suffer from one or more diseases that can cause major pain when having vaginal intercourse, I know this because I am a victim of just such a disease myself. I have long considered writing about it, but I really didn't what I, a sexual relationship writer, could say about it. But now, I realize just how many women suffer with one or more of these ailments that can make ruin a marriage or, at least, a sex-life.

I have had Interstitial Cystitis (IC) since 2003. I refused to become a victim of IC nor to allow it to ruin my family or my marriage simply because I could no longer withstand the pain of vaginal intercourse. If you suffer from any ailment that makes vaginal intercourse painful for you, you need this book.

I have spent years studying the sexual relationships of many different people. What I have learned about human sexual relationships is that vaginal intercourse is NOT the only way to have a happy, satisfying, sexual relationship with your partner.

I understand and have overcome the guilt feelings I first had even before I learned about my disease. I was unable to withstand the pain of vaginal intercourse and I felt guilty that I had to deny my husband the sexual pleasures he deserved. It almost ruined my marriage, but I refused to allow that.

Now, I am passing my knowledge on to you, whoever you may be, because there is no reason for you not to have a happy, loving, satisfying, sexual relationship with your partner. No longer will you have to feel guilty about your sexual relationship or the fact that you can no longer have vaginal intercourse. You owe it to yourself and your family to read this book.

You can pre-order this eBook NOW for only $2.99us at your favorite eBook store and it will be delivered to you on January 1^st, 2018. Or you can order the paperback version for only $6.95us from Amazon NOW!

Don't wait until it is released!

On January 1, 2018 the price goes up!

So reserve your copy NOW!

Mistress Ivey

More on Milking

Last time, we discussed some of the reasons for milking your partner's prostate, and why you should NOT pay any attention to what the Internet says you should do. It's time we got down to business. Let's discuss the mechanics of prostate milking, just for the record, and to make sure you are doing it right.

If you look at the photo on the right, you will see what you have to do. Your finger may need to be a little further in than the photo would make you believe, but you don't want to push it in too far, either. You should be able to feel his prostate. If it is enlarged, a common malady in older men, barring any serious health issues, it makes no real difference. All you need to do is to rub your finger up and down the prostate to stimulate semen flow.

There are number of positions that you might want to use. If you can place him on his knees with his head down, this is probably the easiest method. Doctors often do it with the patient standing, slightly bent over at the waist. Use whatever position is easiest for you. Be especially careful not to push your finger(s) in too far. Although this still might work, you will most likely be pressing behind the prostate instead of directly on it.

The Truth About PM

No, I am NOT talking about time here. I am talking about “Prostate Milking.” I have recently done a little research into what the Internet presents as “normal” prostate milking. It's all wrong! Pay no attention to most of what you see, hear, or read about milking a prostate on the Internet.

Let's begin with what NOT to expect. Don't expect him to shoot gobs and gobs of semen like he does when he has a normal orgasm. If you see that happen, he HAS had a normal orgasm. He will not yell “woopie” or anything else. It just doesn't happen. In fact, he probably won't even get hard, though that is possible.

Here is what you should expect. When you are massaging his prostate correctly, you should see a few drops of semen, not a whole load by any means. By a few, I mean three to five drops is normal. If you keep massaging the prostate, he may continue to leak a few drops from time to time. The longer you do it, the more you will collect. Just don't expect a lot. Of course, there are always exceptions to this rule. You may get a larger amount, just don't expect it.

A Cross-over Post

Below is a copy of a comment made concerning pegging and prostate milking. I wanted to share it with everyone and I will discuss it after you read it...

“When we married, I thought my husband was a manly man; he certainly acted that way when we were dating. I began seeing a definite submissive side to his personality after a few months of being married.

I explored his willingness for anal play by first lightly fingering his bottom when I was sucking on him; his responses signaled his interest so I moved to lubricated finger full insertion and prostrate pressure.

He actually initiated anal stimulation during foreplay and intercourse by moving my hand to his bottom. Based on that, I got more explicit with him by teasing him with (a) medium diameter candle; his eyes told me he wanted it. Next step was a small butt plug that didn't look too threatening.

It didn't take too much work for me to get him working with me to do rhythmic Kegels with it in that added immensely to his pleasure. A few weeks of that and I thought he'd be eager or at least willing to try something more radical. But it took some coaxing.