I recently
received an email from a woman who complained that she and her
husband could only practice the lifestyle (Female Led Relationship)
late at night and before the sun comes up. It dawned on me that there
must be others out there who share her dilemma. They think they don't
really have enough time to enjoy the lifestyle the way they would
like. Well, to that I say, “Utilize what time you have!”
If you have
children at home, or one (or both) of you work outside the home, it
might seem that you just don't have enough time to share the little
things that make an FLR truly enjoyable. Then you are not utilizing
your time properly. Especially if you engage in a little tease and
denial or even chastity.
I have
written several posts that touch on the subject in one way or
another, so to many of you, this might seem like a rehash of old
ideas, but I say, if it works, who cares how old the idea is? Anyway,
here are a few suggestions to help you get started down the road to
more fully enjoying each other using what time you have. Beyond the
obvious weekend getaways, there are plenty of things you can do to
spice things up using little moments here and there.
Take a few
minutes to sit down and create a plan. Let's assume (just for
argument sake) that your husband works, your kids go to school, and
you stay home taking care the house (doing those things you don't
trust your hubby to do) or shopping, or whatever you normally do with
your day. The first thing you need to do is make a schedule of your
families typical day. List (in chronological order) all the normal
events that take place. For example, when do you get up? When does
your husband rise? What about the kids? When do the kids leave for
school, and what time does your hubby leave for work? Include things
like what time your husband has available at work (breaks, lunch,
etc.) when you could contact him with little or no interruption of
his work.
Once you
have everything listed in order, you are ready to make your plan. If
your husband's breaks are at irregular times, he could simply call
you (or perhaps text you) so that you can give him instructions.
There may be other things you can use as well. Does he take a lunch
box or briefcase to work? Something where you could leave a little
note for him to find?
There will
be things that don't run on a regular schedule, such as when the kids
go out to play, or do their homework. Maybe hubby doesn't always get
home at the same time. Your plan will have to take these things into
account.
Okay, so
what goes into this little plan of yours? Well, much of it will not
actually be a part of the plan, but rather a list of things that you
can do if and when the opportunity presents itself. Your plan should
include things like short teases you can do before he goes to work,
during his breaks, during lunch, or any time he might have free to
perform little tasks for you. So you need a list of tasks that you
might want him to perform when you get the chance.
Include
anything you can do (in the way of teasing him) when you get five or
ten minutes alone. It could just be a “bathroom break” when the
two f you can sneak off to the bedroom (or bathroom) while the kids
are busy watching television. You should have several little teases
that you can do with your hubby that will only take a few minutes.
Such as, pull his pants down, get him hard by telling him a fantasy,
or simply fondling him. You can even use these little “tease times”
to punish or admonish him for some indiscretion or displeasure he has
caused you. Maybe he didn't do the dishes properly, or he forgot to
call you before he left the office. It really doesn't matter what he
did, this is a chance to remind him just who is in charge.
By-the-way,
don't EVER feel guilty about taking charge or even punishing him. If
he enjoys being subservient to you, he will love you all the more for
enforcing your rules.
Finally,
you should include longer tease and denial sessions as often as you
can. These may have to wait until the kids are asleep or something,
but you should plan to spend at least twenty or thirty minutes (or
more) at bedtime teasing him or allowing him to pleasure you. Even if
he complains that he is too tired, don't let that stop you. If you do
it right, he will get hard and he won't care how tired he is at that
point. Friday and Saturday nights are great for long tease and denial
sessions. Especially if you can both sleep in in the morning.
Anyway, I
hope you get the picture from all this. If you both want to feel that
you are living the lifestyle more, be creative, use the time you have
to tease him more and he will become much more the husband you have
always wanted. Don't forget to push his limits a little while you are
at it. He will thank you for it and you will have even more fun.
Mistress
Ivey
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