New Book

I know there are many women out there who suffer from one or more diseases that can cause major pain when having vaginal intercourse, I know this because I am a victim of just such a disease myself. I have long considered writing about it, but I really didn't what I, a sexual relationship writer, could say about it. But now, I realize just how many women suffer with one or more of these ailments that can make ruin a marriage or, at least, a sex-life.

I have had Interstitial Cystitis (IC) since 2003. I refused to become a victim of IC nor to allow it to ruin my family or my marriage simply because I could no longer withstand the pain of vaginal intercourse. If you suffer from any ailment that makes vaginal intercourse painful for you, you need this book.

I have spent years studying the sexual relationships of many different people. What I have learned about human sexual relationships is that vaginal intercourse is NOT the only way to have a happy, satisfying, sexual relationship with your partner.

I understand and have overcome the guilt feelings I first had even before I learned about my disease. I was unable to withstand the pain of vaginal intercourse and I felt guilty that I had to deny my husband the sexual pleasures he deserved. It almost ruined my marriage, but I refused to allow that.

Now, I am passing my knowledge on to you, whoever you may be, because there is no reason for you not to have a happy, loving, satisfying, sexual relationship with your partner. No longer will you have to feel guilty about your sexual relationship or the fact that you can no longer have vaginal intercourse. You owe it to yourself and your family to read this book.

You can pre-order this eBook NOW for only $2.99us at your favorite eBook store and it will be delivered to you on January 1^st, 2018. Or you can order the paperback version for only $6.95us from Amazon NOW!

Don't wait until it is released!

On January 1, 2018 the price goes up!

So reserve your copy NOW!

Mistress Ivey

More on Milking

Last time, we discussed some of the reasons for milking your partner's prostate, and why you should NOT pay any attention to what the Internet says you should do. It's time we got down to business. Let's discuss the mechanics of prostate milking, just for the record, and to make sure you are doing it right.

If you look at the photo on the right, you will see what you have to do. Your finger may need to be a little further in than the photo would make you believe, but you don't want to push it in too far, either. You should be able to feel his prostate. If it is enlarged, a common malady in older men, barring any serious health issues, it makes no real difference. All you need to do is to rub your finger up and down the prostate to stimulate semen flow.

There are number of positions that you might want to use. If you can place him on his knees with his head down, this is probably the easiest method. Doctors often do it with the patient standing, slightly bent over at the waist. Use whatever position is easiest for you. Be especially careful not to push your finger(s) in too far. Although this still might work, you will most likely be pressing behind the prostate instead of directly on it.

The Truth About PM

No, I am NOT talking about time here. I am talking about “Prostate Milking.” I have recently done a little research into what the Internet presents as “normal” prostate milking. It's all wrong! Pay no attention to most of what you see, hear, or read about milking a prostate on the Internet.

Let's begin with what NOT to expect. Don't expect him to shoot gobs and gobs of semen like he does when he has a normal orgasm. If you see that happen, he HAS had a normal orgasm. He will not yell “woopie” or anything else. It just doesn't happen. In fact, he probably won't even get hard, though that is possible.

Here is what you should expect. When you are massaging his prostate correctly, you should see a few drops of semen, not a whole load by any means. By a few, I mean three to five drops is normal. If you keep massaging the prostate, he may continue to leak a few drops from time to time. The longer you do it, the more you will collect. Just don't expect a lot. Of course, there are always exceptions to this rule. You may get a larger amount, just don't expect it.

A Cross-over Post

Below is a copy of a comment made concerning pegging and prostate milking. I wanted to share it with everyone and I will discuss it after you read it...

“When we married, I thought my husband was a manly man; he certainly acted that way when we were dating. I began seeing a definite submissive side to his personality after a few months of being married.

I explored his willingness for anal play by first lightly fingering his bottom when I was sucking on him; his responses signaled his interest so I moved to lubricated finger full insertion and prostrate pressure.

He actually initiated anal stimulation during foreplay and intercourse by moving my hand to his bottom. Based on that, I got more explicit with him by teasing him with (a) medium diameter candle; his eyes told me he wanted it. Next step was a small butt plug that didn't look too threatening.

It didn't take too much work for me to get him working with me to do rhythmic Kegels with it in that added immensely to his pleasure. A few weeks of that and I thought he'd be eager or at least willing to try something more radical. But it took some coaxing.

More on Tasks

There are a large number of men (I don't know about women) out there who don't have anyone to give them orders, or to tell them what to do and when or how to do it. These men want some kind of sexual release (or tease and denial) in order to relieve their sexual frustrations. I finally found them a solution...

There is a website called SexScripts that does just that. No, you won't find any Mistresses or Masters to tell you what to do, but you will find many games you can play that will take care of all those pesky sexual urges you have.

SexScripts has a program that you can download and simply run any of the hundreds of programs (scripts) that are listed on their website. These scripts are written by people just like you and me. People who know what tease and denial is all about. Want chastity? There are scripts for that. Want to be controlled by a Master or Mistress? There are scripts for that. Want to play a game online with other people (live) where you have to strip or even perform tasks while other players watch you? There are scripts for that, too!

About Tasks

I get a great number of questions from women who want to know what kind of tasks they should be giving to their partner. It has always been my opinion that you should create your own list of tasks. I have said this in my books and on this blog before, but I have also given several ideas.

First of all, you need to know your partner's likes and dislikes. What turns him on about being controlled by you? Does he enjoy being humiliated? Is he into voyeurism? Exhibitionism? Does he enjoy being punished for failures? What are his fantasies about? If you can't answer these simple questions, you are probably NOT giving him the kinds of tasks he would most enjoy.

First of all, I like to think there are three basic areas that all tasks can be lumped into. The first are tasks that come from everyday life. Things that you need done. Chores! The other two areas are “sexual” tasks and “humiliation” tasks. Of course, both of these last two can be broken down into many sub categories, but that is where you come in.

More Anal Fun

I have always said that you should be having fun (sexually speaking), especially if you have a male partner in chastity. So here is how I often do it...

I recently purchased a glass dildo from a company called 'PipeDreams.' They have created a whole line of glass dildos called 'Icicles'. The particular one I bought was #5 (pictured here). I tried it out on myself first, but the real fun came when I tried it out on my slave, nemo.

We had the house to ourselves and I bound him bent over the kitchen table. His arms were bound to the legs at the far end of the table and his ankles were bound to the legs at his end. Feeling that I had him securely bound, I put the Icicle in my favorite strap-on harness and proceeded to lube his anus.

Before I even attempted to enter him, I showed nemo what I intended to use. He was a little bit apprehensive, but then, he usually is whenever I don my strap-on harness. After applying some lubrication to the dildo, I pressed the tip against his tight little hole. Taking hold of his hips, I began pressing the forward firmly. Of course, all the while I was reassuring nemo that this would not hurt him. (If he relaxes enough, it won't.) I have to admit, when I used it myself, it felt really great.