I have done a great deal of writing about ruined orgasms (my favorite kind). But I think I have to redefine them just a bit. I have come the the conclusion that some orgasms, while not allowed to expend their ejaculate in a 'normal' manner, are not quite the same as real ruined orgasm.
What I am talking about needs a bit of explanation. When I talk about a ruined orgasm, I am speaking about one that is allowed to happen all on it's own. It will not squirt, spurt or shoot as a normal orgasm. It will, in fact, only dribble out. The only way I have found to achieve this type of orgasm is to simply allow it to happen without touching the cock at all. That is, when that all important, crucial moment arrives (often called the point of no return) and no further stimulation of any kind is given, the ejaculate will simply dribble out.
However, if you stop the orgasm, you have not, technically, ruined the orgasm. Though it may not be what your guy wanted, it still allows his system to pump all it can as hard as it can, it just doesn't come out. It will be blocked from squirting, spurting, or otherwise shooting out as in a normal orgasm. That's why I call these “stifled orgasms.” The orgasm must be stopped PRIOR to any ejaculation occurs.
Here are a few ways to “Stifle” and orgasm:
- Squeeze the base of his cock VERY tightly.
- Squeeze this cock just behind the head as tight as you can.
- Pinch the sides of the head firmly between your thumb and forefinger.
- Place your thumb securely over the hole at the tip of his cock. (This one is hard because of the amount of pressure involved.)
- Place a tight cock-ring on his cock either at the base or just behind the head. (Note: silicone rings are not tight enough for use on most men.)
You should maintain your grip for at least ten to fifteen seconds to insure that you have stopped his ejaculation entirely. Of course, in the case of a cock-ring that part is taken care of.
The only difference between a stifled orgasm and a full orgasm (one that is allowed to squirt, spurt and shoot out) is the fact the the stifled orgasm isn't allowed to come out until all the hard pushing is done. The fact that a full orgasm results in a decrease in sexual desire is also present in the stifled orgasm. Therefore, for all intents and purposes, a stifled orgasm is a full orgasm that was not allowed to exit the body with any force.
A ruined orgasm, on the other hand, is not a full orgasm because no matter how much the subject tries to push his ejaculate out with force, he is simply unable to do so. This then, leaves him totally unsatisfied and wanting more. Wanting more is the goal of the ruined orgasm, isn't it?
So from now on I will refer to only three types of orgasm; full, stifled, and ruined. I apologize for any past confusion this may have caused, but in the future, things should be much more clear.
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