One of the things I keep hearing from men and women alike is just wrong. The question is, who is this stuff all about? One philosophy says, “It's all about the woman what she wants.” Another philosophy says, “No, it's really all about what the man wants.” But quite frankly, they are BOTH WRONG!!!
Whether you are into male chastity, a female led relationship, tease and denial, or something else altogether, the correct answer to that question is, “It's about revitalizing your sexual relationship in order to rejuvenate your over all relationship in order to live a happier, healthier life together.” Key word being “Together.”
Men tell me that all they want is to make their partner happier and to serve them. But let's be honest, more sex is one of the main goals for a man. I don't know of one man who doesn't wish for that when they enter into male chastity, an FLR , or simply a tease and denial type of relationship. It may or may not be a conscious thing, but it is definitely important.
For women, once they are convinced by their partner to enter into one of these types of relationships, it is about pleasing him. Doing what he wants and not so much about themselves. I have often told women to forget about what he wants, and do what you want. Of course, I am speaking sexually here. If the female in the relationship will actually do more sexually, even if only doing things she wants to do, the relationship will get better.
So to sum it all up, Ladies, instead of worrying about what your guy wants you to do to him, start by doing more of what you like. Whether that consists of receiving more oral, watching him perform for you, or doing things to him that you enjoy, makes no difference. Once you are enjoying sex more (because you are doing what you like) then go and do some research and find out what other things you can do (or try) that might be fun for you. I have said it before and I will say it again, if it's fun for you, then he will be happier because you will enjoy engaging in sexual activity more often.
Definition: “Sexual activity” does not mean sexual intercourse. Well, not strictly. Anything you do of a sexual nature, is considered sexual activity.
So don't knock yourself out trying to please him. Please yourself and everything will work out fine. Don't try to be the “Mistress” he has always dreamed about, chances are, you'll never live up to that image. Instead, be yourself. If he wants you to be “meaner” (translate as “more strict”) then you can do that. But you should develop your own style of behavior. If you don't want to wear a leather teddy and thigh-high boots, then don't. It's up to you. YOU are in control. Just be yourself!