So you want to learn how to talk during sex, huh? Well, it all begins with knowing your partner’s fantasies. Last time, I talked about the feelings of vulnerability and humiliation. I told you that you needed to talk about things that would either terrify or humiliate your partner in order to turn him on. But how do you know what those things are?
You have to do your homework! You have to learn to listen and to use what you learn against him. I can tell you things to say until I am blue in the face, and they may or may not work for you. But if you do your own research, find out what REALLY turns your partner on, you won’t need me to tell you anything. You will know what to do and what to say.
The mind is an amazing thing! One man might be turned on by the thought of being forced to dress like a woman. While another man might think that licking a woman’s dirty boots is the most sexually exciting thing in the world. Still another, might find being forced to perform sexually in front of other people extremely exciting. The thing is, we are all different. Different things excite different people. Maybe you get aroused thinking about making your partner have sex with another man. Or maybe you just want to show him off to your friends, for a thrill. Or, maybe, you simply enjoy getting him all worked up and then deny his orgasm.
My point here is, you need to know what turns you on and what turns him on. If you can’t talk to him about it, then experiment. Tie him to the bed, blindfold him, fondle his genitals all while telling him that you want to let your girlfriends see how much control you have over him. If he gets turned on, then you know one thing that gets him excited. So try something else. Tell him you would love to see him sucking another man’s cock. Watch his physical reactions. Experiment until you find those things that get him the most aroused.
If you really have trouble talking to him at all, try reading to him. Get your tablet, or a book of short stories (sexual ones) and read it while you fondle him. His reactions to what your words will give you clues as to what kinds of things he likes. Once you know what those are, have him tell you a fantasy, or just tell you what would humiliate him the most. Get him to talk about what excites him. After all, you have him in a very vulnerable position. So use it to your advantage.
Practice makes perfect. The more you practice talking during sex, the easier it will become. And that is the objective. So practice. He will love it! Oh, and if you want to punish him, tie him down, blindfold him, and start talking about how your day went. What you bought at the grocery store, or how bad the traffic was at the school. You physical touch and your words will be in conflict and it may leave him unaroused. That would be his punishment.