This is probably the hardest question I ever get from men who want to turn their relationship into a Female Led Relationship (FLR). Why? Because every woman is different. There is no simple answer to that question. So here is my recommendation...
The first thing you must do is to make your desires known. If you can't sit down with her and tell her that you want her to be in charge of your life, sex life, or just try some tease and denial, then you will never get what you want from her. It's that simple.
You should know that even if she jumps at the chance to become your Mistress, to take complete control of you and all you do, she will NOT do exactly what you dreamed she would do. She is her own woman. She will have to learn how be dominant, at least toward you. You cannot tell her how to do anything! The more you do that, the less chance you have of being successful.
In other words, don't push it on her. Demonstrate it to her. When she starts asking questions about what you are doing, then is when you can tell her what you want. NOT what you want her to do, but what kind of relationship you would like to have. Don't shove a book or website (not even mine) under her nose and say, “This is what I want.” Wait until she asks where to get information about it before you tell her anything. Let her do some research on her own before you let her know that she has been looking in the wrong places. (Let's face it, most of the internet sites are bullsh!t.) But you definitely don't want to push her.
In the end, you will have much better luck by showing her what you want to do for her, than by telling her what you want her to do for you!