I recently
received a message from one of my friends on Facebook. She is one of
the rare ones who asked for my advice and then actually followed it.
It is so often that I give advice to someone who, in the end, totally
disregards it that I wonder why they asked me in the first place.
Then when all is said and done, they wonder why things did not work
out as they had hoped.
This
particular friend, we will call her “M,” told me that her husband
had been begging her to cuckold him for well over a year. Cuckolding
was something that “M” was really not comfortable doing but could
not convince her partner that it would not be a good idea. After over
a year of listening to her husbands constant begging, she decided to
try something I had suggested.
When the
day finally arrived that she was to meet her new lover for dinner and
a roll in the hay at a nearby motel, she kissed her husband goodbye
and left the house. Thirty minutes later, “M” returned home. That
was when she explained to her husband this had all been a test to see
if he truly wanted to be a cuckold.
Her husband
admitted that he was extremely happy that she had not actually gone
through with a real cuckolding. It seems that, faced with reality,
“M's” husband could not handle her having sex with another man.
My point in
telling you this story is that, men sometimes fantasize about one
particular thing. They let it build up in their minds into something
they think they just cannot live without. However, when faced with
the reality of that particular fantasy, their true feelings will
surface and those feelings are not always what they were expecting.
So here is
a big congratulations to “M” for not doing what her husband
wanted and, instead, making him think she had. Her marriage is saved,
her husband will never again ask her to make love to another man,
and, perhaps, he will be more careful what he asks for in the future.
Mistress
Ivey
I find the last portion of your message to be extremely interesting. How true that a man may have so many fantasies running through his head that he is just dying to experience. But many things are better kept as fantasies.
ReplyDeleteWhen I first began reading about orgasm control and denial along with male chastity, the author cautioned "be careful what you ask for".
There have been a few times in the past two years when I wondered if I was at a point that I may end up sorry that I had asked for something. So far, no regrets at all. However, like many men, my fantasies run rampant. Some of those are best not acted upon.
Thank you for more great advice.
Being a man who is cautiously playing with the the cuckold realm and the chastity realm, sometimes there are things you are faced with and in reality you find out that it was just a fantasy. I liked this approach. It deemed to be very successful in getting the real feeling out without making a true mistake. I may have told a fellow temptress to go a little further, stay gone longer and then tell her husband that it was done. Play along for a couple days if necessary and see what happens before telling the truth. Will he ask that she do it again? Does he remain hot for it?
ReplyDeleteWe are still in the stages of talking out a fantasy during sex to see if it continue to turn us on while talking about it and acting it out in the bedroom. We plan to go as far as going to clubs together to allow people to watch us, then if all goes well maybe join in. If all goes well, it's very possible that cuckolding may occur beyond these steps, but not till all prior steps are deemed successful. It's a slow process to make sure no one gets hurt. but remember, nothing is fool proof.
Excellent advice on your part as well. Of all the things a couple can do, cuckolding is by far the most dangerous for their relationship. If it works, great! If it doesn't, it may be too late to save the relationship.
DeleteWe are in with you. Sounds like fun. See if any witches can cast a spell on his chastity device. Ann
ReplyDeleteWow! The first piece of sound, realistic thought I've seen in the many FLR and assorted kink sites I've read. I read once, and I'm struggling to recall the author, that opening a monogamous marriage is "one of the most corrosive things" that can happen to that relationship. Well done.
ReplyDeleteOne often hears 'there is a difference between fantasy and reality', which is undoubtedly true. One never hears the follow-up, which, to me, is: How do you know unless you try out your fantasies? Maybe reality is better than the fantasy.
ReplyDeleteI am a romantic male that likes vanilla and kink play and I also like to switch. And there are some femdom practices that I like a lot but cuckolding is to me one of the meanest femdom practices ever! I find it totally unromantic, unloving and somehow anti-male because it feels like a full humiliating attack to very core of being a "natural" male.
ReplyDeleteI am nobody to judge the kink of others but I fully agree that cuckolding is playing with a lot of fire and can ruin a relationship very quickly! In my case for example if my femdom/switch girlfriend/wife would only just suggest cuckolding because she may like it, well this would lead me very fast to question our relationship and her as my partner. The countdown to a end of our relationship could start very fast.