Tuesday, May 19, 2015

Chastity is for Couples (Pt 3)

How to begin.
Once you have your chastity device, you should engage in a brief test period. YOU should put it on him. Let him wear it for a day, then check to make sure there are no major problems. That is, make sure it doesn't pinch him or chaff him anywhere. If it does, try to correct the problem. You may also have to wait a few days for him heal before testing it again.

To prevent chaffing, use a good lubrication on his penis before putting it back on. Most water-based lubes will dry out too quickly. I suggest a oil-based or silicone-based lubricant. (Johnson & Johnson makes a Baby Oil Gel that works well for this.) If chaffing still occurs, you may have to resort to a different chastity device. Once he can get through a day without any problems, try it for twenty-four hours. If all goes well, try three days this time.

Once you have a device that he can comfortably wear day after day, be sure to clean and inspect it (yourself) at least once a week. Taking a shower together is good way to do this, but by all means, not the only way. The device does NOT need to be removed for cleaning. Use a liberal amount of soap and water to clean his penis every few days. Remember, he probably can't see it well enough to clean it himself, so you inspect it for him. This can be part of the teasing process as well.

Don't let him (or anyone else) tell you that he needs to have an orgasm to prevent ANY kind of disease. He doesn't! I checked with more than one doctor on that, so trust me. He can easily go for a week, a month, even six months or a year without having an orgasm. When the sperm in the body gets old, it will be released inside the body and will be quickly absorbed by the rest of the body. All this happens without him even knowing about it.

Blue-balls is something that is vastly misunderstood as well. Blue-balls is a condition that occurs when a man gets frequently aroused, but does not have an ejaculation for a long period of time. How long depends on the individual and the amount of arousal. What happens is this: He gets aroused and his body (testicles in particular) begin producing sperm (or fluids for feeding and transporting the sperm (in the case of a vasectomy) along the urethra for eventual ejaculation. If that ejaculation does not occur, there is a build up these things in the body (particularly the balls). This may cause him to feel a slight aching in the groin (or balls) when he gets his next erection (or tries to). It is harmless. It's all a part of the game.

After a few weeks of not getting have an orgasm, his body will limit the amount of sperm etc. that it produces and the effects of blue-balls will go away. (No more groin pain.) So you see, blue-balls is nothing to be concerned about. In fact, you may take some joy in the fact that he gets them. After all, it's just another reminder that he is yours and is not allowed to cum without YOUR permission.

Mistress Ivey

8 comments:

  1. I would caution against baby oil or any other petroleum product because the oils tend to capture sweat and bacteria, and are harder to clean. Silicone lube or a good hand cream (Aveeno, Gold Bond, etc.) are much easier to clean and less likely to retain smells.

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    1. Thanks, Tom.
      You are correct, as usual. The worst petroleum product you can use would be petroleum jelly (ie. Vasoline), as it will also attack many plastics and weaken them. I personally recommend a good silicone lubricant as it will stay active much longer than any other lubricant on the market. Yes, they are more expensive, but when it comes to his genitals, isn't it worth the extra cost???

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  2. I have been in chastity for six years now. i think it would feel strange to be free now. my Wife/Mistress rarely allows me to have an orgasm. it's been seven months now. Her happiness sis all that matters and i am proud to be locked for Her.

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    1. You are proof that what I preach works. Thanks for the comment.

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  3. Wonderful information, thank you Ivey. My boyfriend has been in a device for two years, the parts I've enjoyed most have been taking away his masturbation and also his ability to become erect, the device prevents it (no spikes, just the shape and size). He told me he started masturbating at age 13 so it felt powerful to take away this basic urge.

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  4. We are not into long-term chastity or devices, but we practice it for a few days at a time on the honor system, which we feel shows more devotion to her power over me than a device. My wife is new to this, but doing well the last few days. Saturday morning she teased my balls and cock for an hour before I went down on her and gave her a powerful orgasm. Sunday morning I was allowed to hump on her bare bottom for about 1/2 hour, soaking her butt cheeks and crack with my pre-cum, which I was then made to lick clean and dry off with tissues after the goo was lapped up and swallowed. Today, Monday morning, I was teased again for 1/2 hour, she allowed me to lick her pussy for about 1 minute, then I had to edge myself for her 3 times. Later in the day, after completing several chores for her and also waiting on her, I was allowed to lick her pussy again and get her off. If we can get our son out of the house, she is promising me a long and hard paddling that I should feel for days. Tonight, she might even let me inside her and let me cum in her, as long as I lick it up and swallow it later while she sits on my face for an extra couple of orgasms. But she also said she may also make me fuck her until she cums, then make me pull out and deny me again! I am in absolute sub heaven. Your blog has helped us get here, so thank you so much helping us reignite our passion at 61. What a great Memorial Day weekend.

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  5. My wife and I have been into this for a couple of years now. Along the way we've had ups and down ...starts and stops....One issue that stopped us for awhile was how I could pull out of my devise when soft and put it back in later. Beware Keyholders! I suspect most men can do this and get out. We solved this with what we call a glans leash. We tied a knot in a rubber hairband leaving a leash for my penis head. Then we attached another longer band to the leash and fed that through the front of my devise and back to the lock. If I cheat and pull out...I could never get the leash back on and I would be caught. It stops me from cheating and it holds my penis firmly in the tube/cage . My wife was not for getting a PA piercing which is another way to solve this security issue.

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  6. Thank you Georgia for all your efforts on behalf of those who have embraced male chastity as a lifestyle. There are many of us ladies whose life is bettered because of the life style and you have played no small part in this. Thank You, Thank You

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