Okay, I have spoken to the men. Now it's time you women paid attention. Your job, as the head of the house, is NOT to do your husband's bidding! It is to keep things running smoothly and to make sure your partner is doing his part. How do you do that? I have two words for you: Reward, and Discipline!
If you do not reward your partner for his good behavior, he will begin to get lax in his duties. If you don't punish him when he fails to please you, or do what you want, then YOU are to blame when things fall apart.
Yes, if your partner does everything you ask, but you begin to expect this without any kind of reward, then you are fooling yourself. He will become lax in his duties and will not be as attentive and loving as you would like. So, take a few minutes, every day, to praise him for what he does for you. Give him a little “physical” encouragement. That's what he wants and understands.
When your husband (boyfriend, girlfriend, lover, or what have you) is doing what you expect and want him to do, then you should reward him with some kind of physical or auditory pleasure. Reach into his pants and fondle him for a minute. Whisper something sexual to turn him on, or allow him to fondle your breasts for a minute. Do SOMETHING to reward him. If he has been good all week, tie him to the bed and tease his cock for twenty or thirty minutes. Or anything else you can think of that you know he will enjoy.
Now what if he didn't wash the car this morning like you asked? Just as rewarding good behavior is important, so is discipline! If he fails to please you, complains about the way you run things, or even about not getting enough sex, PUNISH HIM!
You can use many different kinds of punishments or disciplines. Having him make the bed ten or fifteen times in a row, is a great discipline if he fails to do it,or does it poorly. Bending him over your knee and using a hairbrush to make him cry is an excellent way to stop his complaining. Don't be afraid to use any kind of punishment that works.
After all, wouldn't you expect to punish your children for misbehavior? Then why don't you treat your partner the same way? Sure, the punishments may be more harsh for your partner than for your kids, but the outcome will be the same; A well behaved husband.