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Okay, I
have spoken to the men. Now it's time you women paid attention. Your
job, as the head of the house, is NOT to do your husband's bidding!
It is to keep things running smoothly and to make sure your partner
is doing his part. How do you do that? I have two words for you:
Reward, and Discipline!
If you do
not reward your partner for his good behavior, he will begin to get
lax in his duties. If you don't punish him when he fails to please
you, or do what you want, then YOU are to blame when things fall
apart.
Yes, if
your partner does everything you ask, but you begin to expect this
without any kind of reward, then you are fooling yourself. He will
become lax in his duties and will not be as attentive and loving as
you would like. So, take a few minutes, every day, to praise him for
what he does for you. Give him a little “physical” encouragement.
That's what he wants and understands.
When your
husband (boyfriend, girlfriend, lover, or what have you) is doing
what you expect and want him to do, then you should reward him with
some kind of physical or auditory pleasure. Reach into his pants and
fondle him for a minute. Whisper something sexual to turn him on, or
allow him to fondle your breasts for a minute. Do SOMETHING to reward
him. If he has been good all week, tie him to the bed and tease his
cock for twenty or thirty minutes. Or anything else you can think of
that you know he will enjoy.
Now what
if he didn't wash the car this morning like you asked? Just as
rewarding good behavior is important, so is discipline! If he fails
to please you, complains about the way you run things, or even about
not getting enough sex, PUNISH HIM!
You can
use many different kinds of punishments or disciplines. Having him
make the bed ten or fifteen times in a row, is a great discipline if
he fails to do it,or does it poorly. Bending him over your knee and
using a hairbrush to make him cry is an excellent way to stop his
complaining. Don't be afraid to use any kind of punishment that
works.
After
all, wouldn't you expect to punish your children for misbehavior?
Then why don't you treat your partner the same way? Sure, the
punishments may be more harsh for your partner than for your kids,
but the outcome will be the same; A well behaved husband.
Mistress
Ivey
Very will spoken Mistress Ivey. We need rewards for doing a good job no matter what the reward is. Let us service you, give us a good boy spanking. Fondle us or tell us to fondle ourselves while you watch. Peg us but do something.
ReplyDeletearchedone
Just fondling? Wouldn't that just frustrate him further?
ReplyDeleteyou say that as if it is a bad thing...
DeleteMs Ivey, I agree with what you say, in general, as submissive's we try our best to please, serve and always looking for approval for jobs well done. We don't alway (at least i don't) want to be rewarded but it is nice to receive one and to be recognized for a " job well done"
ReplyDeletehddndezir@yahoo.com
Reward and punishment is a good formula for a well behaved well trained husband. He must be learn what you expect and the consequences when he doesn't please you.
ReplyDeleteFD
Glad you finally backpedaled from the "do anything you want - including nothing" nonsense from the previous posts in the series. Otherwise, a fencepost could have fulfilled the criteria you earlier laid out for the dominant, so long as the submissive fawned over the fencepost without complaint.
ReplyDeleteIf you had actually read ANY of my books, you would know that I am NOT "Backpedaling" in any way. Yes, a Mistress may do what she wants (even nothing at all) but if she wants to maintain control, she needs to take an active role. I have ALWAYS said that.
DeleteAs a submissive I long for both reward and punishment. I need both to keep me fulfilled and focused. If I go a few weeks without both I get depressed, angry and frustrated.
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