Avoiding the Monotony Monster

Are you guilty of creating monotony in your sex-life? As the one in charge of what happens (within your relationship) it's important to keep things interesting. After all, you could have sex two or three times every day, but if you are not including some variety, then you are doomed to boredom.

If you are the one in charge of your sex-life, then it is up to you make sure that you both avoid boredom. Monotony is the enemy of happiness. You should have a list of sexual activities that you have done before and/or would like to do again. If your list contains fewer than ten items, then you need to do some serious thinking. Your list should have as many things as you can think of on it.

Sit down and think about it. Try to remember all the different things you have done in the past. Write down the ones you enjoyed. Be sure to include those things that were spontaneous, or unexpected. If they can be recreated, write them down. You might want to look over a list of things your partner fantasizes about. What? You don't have a list of his fantasies? Shame on you! If you're not playing into his fantasies, how do you expect to maintain control over his desires?

Once you have a nice long list (and the longer the better) you should refer to it often in order to keep things interesting, exciting even. By using such a list, you can avoid the monotony monster and both of you should be much happier with your life. Not just your sex-life, but your life in general. Let's face it, men are sexually oriented. They can't help it, they are made that way. We women, on the other hand, are not so sexually oriented. We have to work at it.

If you really want to be in total control of your guy, and you are willing to put in the work to make your overall life, even your marriage, better, then you should be willing to spend a little time and effort doing just that. You don't have to have sex every day if you make it memorable enough. At the same time you could use the exact same tease and denial routine every day while telling your partner a different fantasy to achieve your goal and avoid monotony.

Using a list of things you have done that were successful (fun, memorable, exciting) and a list of your partner's fantasies, you can make every sexual encounter memorable. A memorable sexual encounter will actually last longer (in your partner's memory) which means he won't feel like he needs more as quickly. In other words, you can extend the time between teases and he will not feel that you are ignoring him. Nor will he feel bored so quickly.

Once you have these lists, you may need to do some research online. Find some things you have not done and try them. Maybe you need to purchase a new toy or two. Maybe you need to improve your ability to talk during sex. Remember, relating one of your partner's fantasies during sex can greatly enhance both his experience and your own. I guess what I am trying to say is, just because you have a list of ten or even twenty things, you should always be looking for something new. The best part about doing research is that you can make him do it for you. Have him find new things that interest him. Things that you can use as fantasies, and things that you can actually do with/to him.

Never stop varying your routine and you will never have to worry about the monotony monster again.

Good luck, Ladies.

Mistress Ivey

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