Anal Techniques

One of the many things I like to do to my hubby/slave is to insert a plug in his anus before taking him out to run some errands. I know there are a few of you like to do the same. I get such a thrill knowing how uncomfortable and selfconscious he gets whenever I do this. However, many of the letters I get from readers tell me they have difficulty either inserting butt-plugs (or dildos for that matter). So maybe I can make things a little easier with this post.

First of all, an anus is NOT a vagina. It does NOT generate its own lubrication. Therefore, when preparing to insert anything into it, you MUST lubricate it yourself. I have heard it said many times, that when lubricating an anus, when you think you have put on enough lubricant, double it. I don't know if really true or not, but I do this: you need LOTS of lubrication! You not only need to lubricate inside and outside the hole, but you need to put lubrication on whatever it is you are planning to push in there.

If your partner is not used to anal sex or having anything shoved in his ass, then you need to start small and work your way up to the larger items. Many online toy stores sell sets of anal plugs often called anal training sets. I strongly recommend that you start small and gradually move to larger items as your partner gets used to them. Starting small just makes sense.

You should also NOT try to push the entire item in suddenly. Take it slow. You want to ease it in, not ram it in. Now in the case of a strap-on dildo that is fairly smooth and straight, you can begin a slow in and out motion, eventually ending up with you ramming it in. But that's only after a slow, gentle initial entrance. Slow is good.

I have a tip on making it easier to insert whatever item you are trying to insert in the anus as well. Often times, what makes insertion difficult is the sub's inability to relax. Let's face it, it he keeps clenching, there's no way you're ever going to get anything in without a great deal of pain. However, if you make him place his toes together and his heels apart, then bend him over a table or counter, then you will have no problem inserting a properly sized item such as a butt-plug or small dildo. Why? Because in this position it is not possible to clench the anus muscles. That's why doctors use that position for rectal exams.

So in conclusion, simply remember to lubricate well, start small, go slow and make him “assume the position” before you full him up.

Mistress Ivey