Fantasy:
We have
talked about the difference between masturbation and partnered sexual
activity, and how that difference effects his behavior, or desire for
more. In this segment we will discuss what part fantasy plays in
these two activities.
When a man
masturbates, it is crucial that he work up some sort of mental image
of the sexual activity that turns him on. Whether he is looking at a
Playboy magazine or watching a porn-flick on the Internet
makes little difference. Some men need visual (or auditory)
stimulation in order to maintain a fantasy long enough to produce the
desired result... Ejaculation. Others, do not have any difficulty in
this area. It all depends on their experience, whether it has been
watching videos, live action, or just staring at photos. The ability
of their own imagination to produce a clear enough fantasy for them
to successfully masturbate is the key to how long it takes them to
achieve ejaculation and how satisfying that ejaculation will be.
Some men
may tell you that they don't fantasize while masturbating. Bull sh#t!
They may not realize they are doing it, but they do. If they are
watching a video, for example, they are most likely imagining
themselves as being a part of the action. If they are simply looking
at photos, their imagination has to work a little harder and it may
take them longer to reach their goal.
Now let's
put this into a practical situation. If you are the Woman in charge
of this man and all his sexual relief, it would be extremely
beneficial to you to be able to implant, or even nurture, a fantasy
that will get him as excited as possible in as short a time as
possible. Even if you do not intend to allow him to ejaculate at the
time, the more aroused he is, the better for you. If your goal is to
tease and deny, then the more exciting the fantasy is to him, the
better. The more details you relate (or make him relate to you)
during your session, the better. Not only for that moment, but the
fantasy will remain clear in his mind when you are not there to stir
his imagination.
So, can you
see how important it is to use fantasies when teasing your guy? If
not, you should re-read this and the previous post a time or two.
In the next
installment, I will explain how all this can make playing sexual
games, or chastity games, more fun for the both of you...
Mistress
Ivey
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