Wednesday, March 22, 2017

Things Man Love to Hate



This is a list of things that man hate to do, but love to be “forced” to do them by their Mistress. Sometimes only fantasy is enough, but there may come a time when the fantasy is not enough. It all depends on your guy. Simply talking to your partner can often reveal things that you never thought of before. Communication is the key to pushing his fantasies in the direction you want them to go.

Remember, you don’t have to tell him a complete fantasy, simply suggest an activity that will arouse him and he will take it from there. Try one of these, for example. If the fantasy goes well, you may want to try it out for real. Again, it all depends on what things really turn him on and what he (or you) would prefer to keep as fantasies.

·       Masturbate for Mistress
o   In order to do this properly, the Mistress should actually direct the masturbator by telling him when to speed up, slow down, go faster, don’t cum, and things such as that.
o   Though this is very humiliating to do without direction, it is also very difficult to do unless the masturbator loves performing in front of an audience.
·       Drink Ejaculate
o   Remember, it’s all in how you make it happen. If he likes the taste, and many men do, then making him drink it isn’t so bad. But if he doesn’t, then it becomes something that he only enjoys because Mistress is making him do it.
o   Putting it in his coffee, freezing it for later, collecting a larger quantity in the refrigerator, are all ways of making it more humiliating.
·       Pegging
o   Some men love to be pegged. But if you put the right fantasy with it, it can become something he loved to hate. For example, tell him you are going to invite a friend over to do it for real.
o   Add a second woman to make it more humiliating.
·       Sucking Cock
o   Whether or not the Mistress actually wants her guy to suck another man’s cock is irrelevant. It is the fantasy that gets many men turned on. The threat that Mistress might just make it happen.
o   Making him practice with a dildo or two from time to time can add to his enjoyment of the fantasy.
·       Cross-Dressing
o   This is another area that some men may be afraid to confess enjoying. They may have never done it, but that may be because no one ever “forced” them to do it.
o   Cross-dressing in public make a great fantasy for men who enjoy doing it in private. Or maybe, the fantasy of performing sexual acts with other men while cross-dressing appeals to him.

If you put your mind to it, and talk with your partner about as many different things as you can think of, you may come up with a few of your own.

Mistress Ivey

13 comments:

  1. I really wish we could explain just why we want to do something so badly - why we have eroticized something - that we would never do in an unaroused state.

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    1. Thanks, Tom.
      I stopped trying to figure that out years ago. I just know it is fact, and I use it to my advantage! ;)

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  2. How do you get through that part of keeping it just fantasy or making it real? If the man says I want to be pegged or have you invite a friend over to watch or join, how do you get past just keeping it fantasy? If you simply suggest and activity and he takes it from there are you saying the man will add on to the fantasy or are you saying he'll find a way to make it real? I've had problems before we're my wife has suggested activities in flirting talk and texts and I took it as a green light to purchase present toys and thought she really was going to make the fantasy real but she only wanted it to stay fantasy so who really gets the choice in the end of what is fantasy and what should be come real?

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    1. Either partner may make that choice. You don't want to push someone into doing something they are not really comfortable with. For example, many men have cuckolding fantasies, but could never survive actually living it. The key, in a case like yours is communication. You need to talk about things before you actually take steps to make it happen.

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  3. Im yor new reader. Very good blog, thx. Can u give advice? My wife is prety dominant all the time, i try to do everything she demands or asks like house chores and other. But we miss few things in our life. Like sexual part of femdom oriented life. Our Sexual part is more traditional ( No tease and denial. No teases during the day. And missing other stuff. Can you advice something. She knows a bit about my interests. Maybe I just need to read some of your posts about fantasies and similar to her?. Her english is weak. Or maybe I need to stop making everything her way, that she can feel how to live when im not doing all like she wants?

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    1. You can read all the things you want to her but until you sit down and tell her how you feel, and maybe see if would be interested in joining you, then it will do no good. For all you know she is dying to do those things, but fells you would not enjoy it. Talk to her!

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    2. Can you advice what exactly to tell my wife? From what femdom activities to start. I described our relationship one post above. Thanks for help

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  4. Thank you for the reply. I just dont know how to start, what better to tell (

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    1. I don't know your wife, so I really cannot tell you how to start the conversation. However, in my experience, it is best to simply be honest about the whole thing. Tell her how you feel.

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    2. thanks very much. Your blog helped and you and other stuff I read. I made a blog about how I serve her, and I think something hapening a bit. I told her a bit about what I like. But Im not rushing her. Also I dont know exactly what to do, I want her to discover herself about positives of domination. Can I give link here?

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  5. How do you feel like your not pushing if either party takes the fantasy and runs with it cause I can see problems on both sides where either the woman thinks that the fantasy she is making real for the man is what he wants and if he says no at any point or has doubts how should the woman take that or in my case I have made comments thinkinging it was good communication in critiques to either the spankings were to soft or I thought some things were rushed, only to end in argument, cause I truly believe if you are going to make your partners fantasy real you should be able to attempt to put more effort and energy into making their fantasy real right? And you should not get angry if they think you didn't do something right or they tell you how they think you can do it better. All I'm asking is for more of a break down of how that communication of The Who what when where why aspect of after you talk with your partner about there fantasies.

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  6. As usual We enjoy your writing, but miss your other site.
    Mistress Josephine & sub chastmick

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  7. And that is precisely where a strong, competent, experienced Mistress comes in - being able to successfully force their submissive past that line between fantasy and reality. Personally, I find that the 'forced' aspect erases all my guilt and shame for wanting it. When it is no longer about 'my' choice, it becomes so much easier to give in, submit, and accept it in order to please a Mistress.

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