Denial and Prostate Cancer

There seems to be a lot of confusion over whether or not abstinence (orgasm denial) causes prostate cancer in men. The reason for this confusion is due to the fact that there has never been any conclusive data from any medical study on the subject.

Oh, there have been many studies done. Too many to list here, but the problem is simply a lack of empirical data either way. The one thing the entire medical community can agree on, concerning prostate cancer, is that we know more about its treatment than we do about its cause.

One of the main problems with any study of this nature rests with the honesty of its participants. Also, running a “control” group is NOT easy. After all, who is going to tell a bunch of grown men that are not permitted to ejaculate for the next twelve months (or longer) while another group will have to ejaculate several times a week? Who is going to keep the abstinent group honest?

What we do know is that the older you get, the better chance you have of developing prostate cancer. Your race may (or may not) also have an effect on that possibility. Ask any prostate researcher and he/she can tell you more things that don't cause prostate cancer than any that might cause it.

So, if you are worried about putting your guy into long-term chastity, you can always learn to milk his prostate or become very good at ruining his orgasms. Either of these methods would be an effective prostate cancer preventative, if it is, indeed, caused by abstinence.

Mistress Ivey

I am Back

My online experiment didn't work out well, to say the least. So I am back on my blog. I will be writing on various subjects, those that other people write me about. So if you have a question, or an interest in some specific area of your relationship, please comment or write a note at cbt.mstrss(at)gmail(dot) com and I will try to address it here.

To start with, I would like to cover one thing that women often seem to forget, male ejaculation is bad. Well, not totally, but if your hubby, partner, significant other, chastity boi, or what have you, seems a little grumpy, there are several possible reasons. 1) Maybe he needs some sexual attention. Make sure he gets plenty. 2) Maybe work isn't going well and he needs some sexual attention to get his mind off of it. Give it to him. 3) Or, just maybe, you allowed him to have a full orgasm.

As I said in my books, a full male ejaculation can cause many men to suffer a sort of “after effect” in which they display a shortness of temper, or an in general grumpy disposition for several days. To avoid this kind of thing happening to you, be sure you monitor and control his orgasms. Whether you place him in chastity or not, just make sure he isn't masturbating in the shower when you are not looking.

Next week we will cover the big question about prostate cancer.

Mistress Ivey

Venus For Men

I have recently become aware of a product that I feel is definitely worth mentioning. I am sure many, if not all of you, have heard of the “Sybian” by Abco Research Associates. I have been aware of the “Sybian” for years but was not aware they also produce a product just as good for men!

The “Venus For Men” is a male masturbation aid that far out performs any other male masturbation aid I have ever come across. It is unique in what it does and how it does what it does. So what does it do? It can give your man the feeling of actual sex with a woman (or even better, as some of it's user's claim). It can be used to to help those with erection difficulties and can even create an ejaculation without an erection (or so they claim).

I have not, to date, used one of these devices on my hubby, or anyone else for that matter, but I would love to try it out. According to some users, a man can experience prolonged sexual pleasure because of the simple adjustments that can be made to both stroke and speed of the unit. I have read that simply by using a slow stroke, a man can last for hours. Imagine what you could do in the way of edging! If you were to control the unit, instead of allowing him to do it, you could go out shopping, and when you return, he would still not have ejaculated.

Think if it ladies, you could edge him or tease him for hours without ever getting your hands messy! Wouldn't that be a fun and unique experience!? Your guy would no longer beg you to tease him, but rather, he would beg you to use the Venus For Men on him. If you are of a mind to, you could give him more than one orgasm in a day. How many? That would be up to you to find out. But what fun you would both have learning just what this machine can do for you both!

There is even a pump system available to “enlarge” him for awhile. And an attachment to massage or suck his (or your) nipples. It even works on just the head of his penis if you like. It looks to be a very interesting device and I can't wait to try it out.

Check it out for yourself at https://venusformen.com/ and see what I am talking about.

Mistress Ivey

A Reblog from Tumblr

keephimcaged:

Again this is one of those facts that amazes me. I never thought I’d do this, let alone enjoy it. But I do it all the time now!
Most regularly it’ll be after I’ve been edging him, and I’ll say ‘that’s enough now’ and just let go, and he’ll let out the hottest little whimper of need. And I’ll either say ‘cage back on’ or ‘you can stay out tonight’, either way, he almost always HAS to push himself up against me, he can’t physically stop himself. Either his still hard cock or his even harder cage, pushing into my bottom, desperate, wanting me so much.
Isn’t this the irony… the snuggles I want after sex I get most easily, when I DON’T let him cum! He wraps himself around me, wanting me, needing me, it’s so wonderful! If I’m not that sleepy, especially if I’ve left him uncaged, I’ll whisper, ‘What would you like to do to me right now?’ and I lie there as he tells me how much he wants to make love to me with his mouth, or he’ll get more aggressive, he’ll push his cock into me and tell me he wants to fill me with his seed, gently fucking me, obsessed with me.
This is the greatest kink ever… lol
And if I’ve had enough just a ‘that’s enough now darling, if you want to be allowed out tomorrow’ and I’m left in peace, knowing he’s fantasising about me, and I love it!

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Feelings

No, I am not going to break out into song. You're welcome. However, I am going to talk about feelings. Everyone has them. But it amazes me how many people can't seem to express them. Especially when it counts the most... to their spouse. Admit it. You have feeling that you are either afraid to express, or afraid of what your spouse will think of you if you do express them.

Well, I am here to tell you that keeping things bottled up is NEVER a good thing. Have you ever wanted your husband to understand certain feelings that you have, maybe toward sex, but you just could not seem to express them in a way that would be non-threatening? Or maybe there was something that you wanted to do that you thought (or were taught) would be considered too “kinky” for him?

Well, I am here to tell you that your husband has some of those same feelings. In fact, he is so afraid to tell you because, well, it's just not “manly” to have those kinds of feelings. Men, you know what I am talking about. I have a quote from a woman I respect for her work in the area of female led relationships. Tell me, gentlemen, that this does not strike home.

“These feelings you have had for years. you want to be dominated, controlled, and told what to do and when. you feel like you have to have this. you want to serve a strong, caring, loving, consistent, firm, dominant person. You will obey, serve, and please. Not out of fear, but because it's what you crave to do, you live for it. Living by set rules and expectations is not only what you desire and crave, it just seems right.

you think these feelings are strange, you are afraid to tell anyone. you keep it to yourself. you think you are the only one like this. you also think people will believe you weak or unintelligent. Let Me tell you, you are not alone. More men have these feelings and will admit it than you know. It is very natural. Also you are probably driven, educated, strong. you don't want to lead. you want to give yourself over to the Mistress in your life.”

If this is you, and you have no one in your life to tell this to, then you need to check out “Ivey's Keys” for yourself. You might just be surprised by what you find there. And Ladies, if your husband has indicated that he has these feelings and you just don't know how to handle it, You should join him. Or maybe you want to learn more about how to handle those feelings you know that he has. Again, join us at “Iveys' Keys” and learn what you need to know to live a happier, more fulfilling life with him.

Mistress Ivey

An Addendum

Yes, we have moved! But we have upgraded the New Website as well.

We now accept BOTH male and Female submissives and Keyholders!

When we first began this project, it was just a concept to bring male subs  and female dominants

together. But with a little tweaking her and there, we were able to adapt everything to hand female subs and male dominants as well.

Now we truly have a website for just about everyone who is into D/s relationships but has not (yet) found the right counterpart to their particular desires. So if you are into D/s and want to put a little more spice into your life, or just need someone to be a yang to your yeng, we can help!

Everyone is invited! Join us and have fun even if you are deep into a healthy D/s relationship of your own. You can BOTH join and have a lifetime of fun together!

Mistress Ivey

We Are Moving!

We are moving this blog to another website. I know what an inconvenience that will be for many of you. I will try to get a feed going as soon as possible so that you won't miss anything, if you get my posts through a feed.

As for the New Website, it serves a dual purpose: 1) To contain my blog with a better interface and more to do; and 2) To allow me to run the other part of my site without having to keep switching back and forth.

So... “What is the other side of your new website?” you ask. It is a Member's Only website created by nemo. It is a website for submissives, wives, Keyholders, and Mistresses to have some fun. For men, we will provide a “Keyholding” service for those who don't have anyone else to control things like, orgasms, chastity, behavior, etc.

We will be providing a place for women to come and learn the ropes, ask questions, and get answers. They can even turn their submissive partners over to us so they can get a little R&R as it were. We will give you the chance to relax while we “steer the boat” for awhile.

We NEED Keyholders as well! If you are experienced, or just want to learn how to do it, we invite you to join us in the “Keyholder's Group” where you can learn some tricks, earn some cash, and have some fun while doing it.

This will be the last post on this blog site.

The new site is located athttp;//iveyspage.com (Ivey's Keys) At least come a check us out.

Mistress Ivey