I know, most of the time sex IS fun, but there are those times when you just don't feel like it, but you also feel as if you “owe” your partner something. Well, no, you don't.
There have been times in my own relationship when I just didn't feel up to having sex with my husband. I am sure there are many of you who have felt this way at one time or another. But if you want to maintain a happy, healthy relationship, you may need to find another means of giving him what he needs.
Of course, if you are feeling “under the weather” and just can't do anything, then he should be concerned enough to put his own desires to the side so that he can take care of you, the kids (if any), and the rest of the house.
But what can you do on those days when you are just too tired to get involved with anything sexual? How can you satisfy his needs and desires without having to go through all the usual rig-a-marrow? Get creative!
Here are a few ideas of things you can do that can be both entertaining for him and simple for you.
- Have him write a detailed fantasy. Make it as long as he likes but filled with details about everything that is going on. It should not be a simple “I am tied up while you tease my cock” thing, but a complete detailed account of what happens. More like a short story than an outline.
- Have him find a few videos on any subject you know will turn him on and watch them. There are many, many video web sites from which to choose. Maybe you want him to find a sixty-minute video compilation of blow jobs, or cum shots, or whatever. Of course, he should watch them while naked and should not be allowed to touch himself.
- How about having him write a few role-play scenarios? See how many different ideas he can come up with. Then he can tell you about them in detail at a later date (when you are feeling better).
- You could have him masturbate for you, or by himself, if you don't feel up to watching him. Of course that is not possible if he is in chastity. There are a hundred ways to make it more interesting for him. Maybe he has to watch a video with two (or more) men and no women to do it. Maybe he has to stand in a dark closet to do it, catch his ejaculate, and show it to you before he licks it off his hand and swallows it.
- If you just want to get him out of the house for awhile, have him insert a butt-plug and go masturbate in a public restroom somewhere. He can take a photo with his phone to prove that he did exactly as he was told.
These are but a few ideas to get you started. Try making up your own list to have on hand for those times when you need to give him something to do when you don't feel well. It's may be easier to have a list handy if you are not feeling well.