Not Feeling Well?

I know, most of the time sex IS fun, but there are those times when you just don't feel like it, but you also feel as if you “owe” your partner something. Well, no, you don't.

There have been times in my own relationship when I just didn't feel up to having sex with my husband. I am sure there are many of you who have felt this way at one time or another. But if you want to maintain a happy, healthy relationship, you may need to find another means of giving him what he needs.

Of course, if you are feeling “under the weather” and just can't do anything, then he should be concerned enough to put his own desires to the side so that he can take care of you, the kids (if any), and the rest of the house.

But what can you do on those days when you are just too tired to get involved with anything sexual? How can you satisfy his needs and desires without having to go through all the usual rig-a-marrow? Get creative!

Here are a few ideas of things you can do that can be both entertaining for him and simple for you.

• Have him write a detailed fantasy. Make it as long as he likes but filled with details about everything that is going on. It should not be a simple “I am tied up while you tease my cock” thing, but a complete detailed account of what happens. More like a short story than an outline.
  
• Have him find a few videos on any subject you know will turn him on and watch them. There are many, many video web sites from which to choose. Maybe you want him to find a sixty-minute video compilation of blow jobs, or cum shots, or whatever. Of course, he should watch them while naked and should not be allowed to touch himself.
• How about having him write a few role-play scenarios? See how many different ideas he can come up with. Then he can tell you about them in detail at a later date (when you are feeling better).
  
• You could have him masturbate for you, or by himself, if you don't feel up to watching him. Of course that is not possible if he is in chastity. There are a hundred ways to make it more interesting for him. Maybe he has to watch a video with two (or more) men and no women to do it. Maybe he has to stand in a dark closet to do it, catch his ejaculate, and show it to you before he licks it off his hand and swallows it.
  
• If you just want to get him out of the house for awhile, have him insert a butt-plug and go masturbate in a public restroom somewhere. He can take a photo with his phone to prove that he did exactly as he was told.

These are but a few ideas to get you started. Try making up your own list to have on hand for those times when you need to give him something to do when you don't feel well. It's may be easier to have a list handy if you are not feeling well.

Mistress Ivey

Role Playing

Sexually speaking, there are literally thousands of various things you can do. Some are simple, like teasing a man's penis until he begs you to let him ejaculate. Some are more complex and require some kind of set up before you can actually do anything, such as, role play. If you enjoy teasing your partner in many different ways, including psychological teasing, then role play may be just the thing for few hours of fun.

What is role play, exactly? Simply put, role play is acting. You act out a non-scripted scene with your partner during which you use sexual teasing as the basic premise. That is, you play the part of an authority figure, a cop, a terrorist, a teacher, or a home invader, to mention a few. Your partner will play the role of your “victim” whom you are going to sexually tease and/or torment.

Basically, you will be in control. You will guide the scene so that it goes the way you initially planned it, or a reasonable facsimile of it. During the course of your session you will tease and/or torment your partner sexually in any way that you both enjoy. But there is an added aspect over just putting on the bed and playing with his body. That aspect is that you can become someone else. Someone who can do and say things to heighten your partners sexual enjoyment as well as your own.

Role play can be a great diversion from what you might normally do. An exciting change to put a little more sexually exciting action into your, otherwise, boring routine. It allows you to play a part that is (or is not) in your nature. Do something new and exciting for the both of you.

Become a cop to your partner's criminal ways and interrogate him. Or make him tell you where he has hidden the loot he stole. Or be a home invader who takes him captive and has her way with him. Whatever strikes your mood. Have fun with it, but always be safe. Use safe-words!

Yes, you can do this. It is all in how you approach it. If you go into it with the idea that it will be fun for the both of you, and not like you have to “perform” for your partner, then you will both enjoy the experience. Give it a try.

Mistress Ivey

Post Orgasm Torture

I have a complaint... I have searched many video sites for a decent (accurately portrayed) video of Post Orgasm Torture (POT), but it seems the video “tubes” out there don't really understand it. So...

Once again I find myself trying to accurately describe something without a decent video to make it all clear. First of all, stroking your partner's penis after he has ejaculated, is NOT POT! POT is continuing direct stimulation of the head of his penis immediately after ejaculation. Not ten seconds after, or even five seconds after. Immediately after! In fact, it may help if you begin while he is still ejaculating. Use his own semen as lubrication. That works very well. The head of his penis should be well lubricated. If it is not, chances are you will only irritate his penis instead of stimulating it.

Not every male's penis is the same, duh. Therefore, POT will not feel the same to every man. To some, it may actually be quite painful, but to most, it will simply be extremely sensitive. Either way, he will fight you on it. POT didn't get it's name from being a nice “pleasant” feeling. It is like over-stimulating that part of his penis that he likes to have stimulated in the first place. Note, I said, “over-stimulating”.

I highly recommend using some type of bondage if you intend to try POT on your guy. He will, undoubtedly, fight to get loose and stop your from stimulating his penis after he ejaculates. If you are doing it right, he will fight. So, at the very least, you should bind his hands so that he can't stop you. He may, buck violently, twist and turn, shout at you, and even hurt himself in his attempt to stop the assault. So be prepared for that.

All in all, Post Orgasm Torture can be a fun way to add a little excitement to your play-time. If nothing else, it can be used as a punishment for any guy who ejaculates before you wanted him to. The .gif above shows the proper method for POT.

Mistress Ivey

More on Fantasies

As you have probably guessed, men's fantasies are extremely important when it comes to tease and denial. You don't even have to be in the same room with your partner if you can find a way to stimulate his libido with a fantasy. You don't even have to tell him an entire fantasy. Once you know a few of his favorite ones, or have planted a few of your own, all you need to do is remind him of one of them and he will become turned on, no matter where he is or what else he might be doing at the time.

Most men have such vivid imaginations, at least when it comes to sexual activities, that they can often think of nothing else once their mind gets focused on a fantasy. Let's take Bob, for example. (Bob is fictional, by the way.) His wife sent him a text that read simply, “Jane is coming over for dinner and I want you to serve us. You will wear only your chastity device and nothing else.” She sent this text about 10:am, while Bob was at work, and by the time poor Bob got home, he was almost frantic. He had a hard-on that just wouldn't quit, even though it was limited by his chastity device.

He didn't know if his wife was serious about Jane coming to dinner, or that he would be expected to serve it to the wearing only his chastity device. Why? Because his wife would not answer her phone or reply to any of his text messages all day. To make things worse, when he finally arrive home, Bob's wife ordered him to strip naked, except for the chastity device, of course, and start preparing dinner.

Bob had no idea that his wife had not, in fact, invited her friend Jane for dinner. Poor Bob didn't know that until dinner was ready to be served. His wife made him serve it to her, dressed the way he was, and Bob loved every minute of it.

After dinner, Bob and his wife discussed what had happened. She discovered that poor Bob was scared to death that he was going to have to serve dinner to his wife's friend as directed. He had been quite turned on by it all day. In the back of his mind, he thought his wife would surely not make him do it. But the closer dinner time came, the more excited Bob got.

My point of this story is simple... It is so easy to put your partner's fantasies to use that you would be crazy not to do it every now and then.

Mistress Ivey