Last week we talked about what it takes to be a good leader. We mentioned that food, shelter and clothing were the only needs that must be filled. Now let's talk about desires. If you are not fulfilling at least some of your partner's desires, he will quickly lose interest in serving you. That would be a bad thing.
So what do you do when your partner has expressed the desire to do something “really” kinky? Well, the obvious answer would be to do whatever he wants. But what if you are not really into that kind of activity? What can you do then? I have found that humiliation works very well.
If you don't want to dress him up in women's clothing, or make him have sex with another man, or cuckold him, or even allow another woman to touch him, here is a suggestion that can fulfill all these desires without you having to do anything but give him a few commands. It's called humiliation.
Keep him doing it for you until he seems comfortable doing it, then stop. Tell him to stop. Then close the curtain and walk out of the room. Oh, and be sure to tell him he is not allowed to masturbate without your permission and that he will be punished if he cums without your permission.
Now, you have set the stage. Any time you like, tell him to masturbate for you. At a restaurant, a theater, in the car, or stop out in the country somewhere, tell him to get out of the car. Then inform him that he is not allowed back into the car until you see him ejaculate. Or stop him before he does.
Make him masturbate in the car while you are driving. It doesn't have to be a long trip, just long enough for him to get himself good and hard. When you park the car, get out and tell him (out loud) to pull his pants up and get out. That is especially enjoyable in a crowded parking lot where others might hear you.
Now, if he still pushes to get some of the other fantasies, simply describe one of them to him the next time you make him masturbate for you. You don't have to make his fantasies become reality, just feed them to him while he is performing for you. That will hold him for at least a little while.
Another suggestion would be to push those fantasies beyond what his desires dictate. That is, make him think you are going to make them come true, but make them MORE than what he wants. For example, he wants to be dressed in women's clothing around the house. Tell him the only way you want to do it is to take him shopping and make him wear everything you pick out for him until you are done. Maybe indicate that once he is dressed up, you are going to make him go to a gay bar and pick up other men.
Of course, what you say to him depends on what he wants and what would be way beyond his limits. The idea is to push the fantasy beyond his limits with the understanding that that is the only way you would ever want to do it.
Now, go and have some fun with him!