Approaching Your Wife

This is probably the hardest question I ever get from men who want to turn their relationship into a Female Led Relationship (FLR). Why? Because every woman is different. There is no simple answer to that question. So here is my recommendation...

The first thing you must do is to make your desires known. If you can't sit down with her and tell her that you want her to be in charge of your life, sex life, or just try some tease and denial, then you will never get what you want from her. It's that simple.

You should know that even if she jumps at the chance to become your Mistress, to take complete control of you and all you do, she will NOT do exactly what you dreamed she would do. She is her own woman. She will have to learn how be dominant, at least toward you. You cannot tell her how to do anything! The more you do that, the less chance you have of being successful.

The Basic Ingredient for All Female Led Relationships

(Reprinted from ConquerHim.com)

People may argue about whether or not a Female Led Relationship needs to use chastity control to work well. They may also debate about whether or not the man is inferior to the woman in the relationship. Of all the debates and options all couples may encounter while structuring their Female Led Relationship there is one common ingredient that must be the foundation for any and all Female Led Relationship: honoring a woman’s choices.
Whether a couple participates in a FLR by choice or by nature, the one thing that is common is the man’s decision to honor the woman’s choices.
If you are in a FLR and you are wondering whether you are ‘doing it right’, you should understand that when you honor the choices of the woman you are with, then you are doing it right.

• When she asks to be treated a certain way, as a man you should honor that.
• When she says she wants chicken for dinner, as a man you should honor that.
• When she wants to be left alone, as a man you should honor that.
• When she says she is ready to try a new career, as a man you should honor and support that.
• If she tells you she is not interested in an idea that you present to her, as a man you should honor that.
• If she wants to try a new idea during your intimate moments, as a man you should honor that.
• If she wants you to make some of the decisions on your own, as a man you should honor that.
• If she wants to cuddle and be comforted, as a man you should honor that.
  

You do not need whips, chains, foot worship, spankings, sexual control or forced domination to classify your relationship as a FLR. The aforementioned options are fetishes and kinks and may be used to motivate the submissive man but, if a man truly wants to participate in a FLR, he will not need any of those things because his desire to please the woman he loves comes from his heart.
If a man is trying to convince you that you can not have a FLR without dominating him forcefully, placing him in chastity or making him kiss your feet he is either misinformed or he is being manipulative.
All he needs to do is place honoring the woman’s preferences and choices as the number one priority and you have successfully created a FLR.

By Queenie
ConquerHim.com

FemDom-v-FLR

Please, do not confuse a Female Led Relationship with a FemDom relationship. These are actually two different things. Although, they may have a some aspects that cross-over, or are similar in nature, they are very different animals.

A typical FemDom relationship is more about the sexual aspects where the female totally dominates the male in and by sexual means. There may be may, or may not, be any actual love between the two partners. Usually, the male is treated as if he has no rights at all, or that what he wants, likes, dislikes, don't matter at all. In fact, he may be in it for the mistreatment and not for the love.

Do I Have To?

You may ask yourself, do I have to spank my guy or tie him up to have sex with him? The answer is a resounding, “NO!” You don't have to do anything. However, if you don't do anything, how will he know you are in charge?

Simply put, being in charge means that you make the decisions. You know what you want, and you are not afraid to say it. Whether we are talking about buying a new car or choosing a movie to watch, you know what you like. Maybe it isn't his favorite color, or he hates this actor or that subject, but who cares? The decision is yours to make. If you want to ask for his opinion, there is nothing wrong with that, as long you realize that you are not obligated to do so, nor are you obligated to go with his desires.

Do you have to engage in tease and denial? Do you have to include corporal punishment? Do you have to ask him when he wants to have sex? Or if he wants to be on top? The answer to all these questions is, again, “NO!”