More on Pegging

This is memo. I am writing this to give you more of a male perspective to pegging. Guys, if you think you would enjoy being pegged by your partner (or someone else), and they don't know it, you need get on the ball and talk with them. I know that many of you are terrified to bring up the subject for fear that you will be scorned, laughed at, or told you are just too perverted. But if don't ever bring it up, you will always long for something you may NEVER get. That's not fun.

The trick is to find a way to bring it up with least amount of risk. So, I suggest sitting down to talk about what you both like and don't like. Tastes change, so doing this periodically is always a good idea. If you enjoy any kind of anal play from wearing a butt-plug to prostate milking, then pegging is not that much different. So bring up the subject during one of your discussions and hopefully, you will get your wish.

To Peg or Not to Peg?

I haven't really written much on this subject. Even in my books I didn't go into great depth. So, here is a little information to help get you started, if this is something you think you might enjoy.

First of all, let me be clear for those who might not be aware of it. “Pegging,” as it is often called, is the act of using a strap-on dildo in order to have anal sex with your partner. This is not something that appeals to everyone, but I have been surprised at how many men actually want their wives to engage in this type of activity.

I will not get into the psychological aspects of pegging or what it might represent to certain people. I have found that the reasons men have for enjoying it vary greatly. Women also enjoy in engaging in pegging for a wide variety of reasons. But the best reason I can think of for doing it is that it can be fun for both parties.

Warning: Anal sex of any kind can be painful! Especially at first. Once a man gets used to doing it though, the pain will ease and his enjoyment will increase. 

More on Fantasies

So, Ladies... If you have been paying attention, and if you take a look at the two polls in the right-hand column, you should realize that your partner most likely fantasizes about many different things. Some, he hopes you will make come true, but others he just wants you to talk about doing.

My point here is (and I will leave the polls up for another week), if you take a close look at what these two polls indicate, you should be able to guess where your partner is in these polls. If you can't, then you can always have him take the polls again, just for you. Don't worry, he will answer the questions, if you will but ask them.

Most men, I have found, want their limits to be pushed, at least a little. You can use his fantasies to push those limits if you like. All you have to do, when you are sexually teasing him, is to mention that you have been wanting to do something special. Something on his fantasy list. You don't have to actually do it. Just talk as if you might. Tell him how much fun you think it would be to do it. Tell him exactly how you would do it.

Would you make make him dress up as a woman and take you to a coffee shop? Perhaps you might mention that one of your girlfriends knows about his submissive side and wants to see it for herself. So you thought you would invite her over so she can see just how obedient he is.

And for those things on his “Reality” list, well, if any of them appeal to you, why not make a few of them come true for him. It isn't a great deal of work for you. All you have to do is tell him you want him to do whatever it is. He should, albeit reluctantly, obey you. After all, that is what he wants to do. He longs to be told exactly what to do. It is all a part of the teasing that you do for him.

So, Ladies, in the future, remember to push his limits and tease him with fantasy, and a splash of reality every once in a while. It will liven up both your lives and possibly make this “being in charge” more fun for you.

Mistress Ivey

Reality-v-Fantasy

I have always been curious about something. What challenges would men most like to have become reality and which would they prefer to keep only as fantasies?

Everywhere you look on the Internet, you see photos and stories about submissive (or chastised) men being subjected to all sorts of humiliating situations. I mean, you see it all the time in captioned photos, erotic stories are filled with humiliating situations such as, being naked or dressed as a French maid at a party full of women (and or men). Men being forced to commit homosexual acts, and even men being exposed in pubic.

I know how my own husband feels about most of these situations. After all, he loves humiliation of this kind. But what do YOU think about them. Do you only fantasize about be bound to a chair while watching your wife have wild sex with another man? Or is that something you would love to actually do? Would you want to be “forced” into joining in, maybe sucking his cock? Or would you prefer to suck this cum out of your wife's vagina?

Maybe, to you, simply having your wife (or Mistress) sit on the couch and instruct you how to masturbate for her is a only a fantasy. But would you like it to be real? Or would that be too much for you?

Teasing Methods (pt-5)

So, by now you have a pretty good grasp of what Tease & Denial is all about. But there's more. Lots more, actually. However, this is the last in my “Teasing Methods” series. Here are a few ideas of things you can have him do when you want to be doing something else. That is, when you don't want to be bothered. Basically, these are things you can make him do by himself, so you don't have to.

So you are sitting at home, ready to watch your favorite TV show, or maybe a movie you have been waiting to see. In pops your partner wanting you to do something to tease him. Tell him to watch a porn video that will last until your show is over. Be sure you tell him NOT to ejaculate. Better yet, put him in chastity, at least for the time being. That way, you can be sure he won't have any unauthorized ejaculations.

You could try making him drop his pants right there in front of you. Have him masturbate while you watch your show. Or, if you are not that interested in the show, direct him. Tell him when to speed up and when to slow down, just to avoid that unwanted ejaculation. Yes, it requires a bit more involvement, but again, you don't have to direct him.

Teasing Methods (pt-4)

Okay, we have talked about many types of teasing so far, but we have not touched on what you can do when the two of you are not in the same room. In other words, while he is away. So let's do that now.

There will be plenty of opportunities to use the teases in this post. You don't have to send him to some far away place and make him spend several nights in a hotel room, just to do these little teases. In fact, you can use these while he is at work, or running errands for you, or anytime he is not physically with you. He could simply be in another room, for that matter.

Try sending him some sexy photos. It works best if he has a computer with him, but you can simply send them to his cell phone if you want. Have him make a special album (or folder if he is using his computer) to place all the photos you send him into. That way, he can always find them and there is less chance of someone else seeing them by accident.

These photos don't have to be of you. If you prefer not to open yourself up to that sort of thing, you can always send photos you find on the Internet. Use your favorite search engine and type in anything that will provide photos of whatever you want. You can get any kind, even animals mating, if that's what turns him on. Just a few of these photos along with your words of encouragement, can go a long way toward getting him all “hot and bothered.”

You can also send him some sexy texts. Tell him what you would like to do to him the next time you get him alone. This is also a good way to find out what really turns him on. He probably has fantasies of a nature he has been reluctant to tell you about. So try lots of different subjects to see how he reacts to them. Maybe he loves the idea of you dripping candle wax on his body. Or maybe he finds the thought of you being dressed in a skimpy pair of jean-shorts to be something that gets his penis all in an up-roar.

You can also have him perform tasks for you while he is away. Send him out to purchase a pair of ladies panties, a size that will fit him. Or maybe you would prefer to make buy some type of lingerie for you. The humiliation of going to a boutique to by sexy things for you can be a real thrill for him as well, and for you.

Maybe you send him to work with a small tube of lubricant and a butt-plug. Have him insert it while he is at work, or out shopping. Tell him to take a photo of the plug in place before he gets home. This type of humiliation is a common turn-on for many men. Maybe you can have him send you a photo of his hard penis while he is out of the house.

You send him a text link to a sexy story online with orders to read it before he leaves the office, or at least, before he gets home. If he is out shopping, have him read it on his phone before he is allowed back in the house.

Using a little imagination, you can come up with a myriad of thins he can do for you that will at least turn him on, if not yourself. Have as much fun with it as you can. It's the little things you have him do that can make all the difference in how much he relies on you for sexual stimulation. And that is what you want.

Mistress Ivey

Teasing Methods (pt-3)

So far, we have covered a lot of ground. But there is a lot more to go, so pay attention! Here in part-3, I will give you some more basic ideas on how to get your guy on edge and keep him there.

Again, at least his hands should be bound so he cannot interfere with what you are doing. And, of course, a blindfold will help. It not only gets his imagination working over-time, but it also means you can wear that old pair of ratty jeans you are so comfortable wearing. After all, if he can't see you, what does it matter what you are wearing? He can imagine anything you tell him.

This time, try using a vibrator. It doesn't really make a great deal difference what type it is, but having a couple different ones on hand is a good idea. At least one should be of the “wand” style. You know, something that has to be plugged in or, at least, charged. You can find this type at most pharmacys and ANY sex shop. A small battery powered one is also a plus.

You can use a vibrator just about anywhere on his body. Try it on his penis, balls, anus, nipples, neck... you name it! Any of his erogenous zones should get a charge out of it. Tickling him with it can be a great deal of fun as well. Don't forget the bottoms of his feet.

Speaking of things that vibrate... Purchasing a small vibrating butt-plug is also a good idea. There are a number of uses for an item like that. Insert one. Turn it on. Then go ahead and tease whatever else you want to tease. It only adds to his pleasure (or should I say, torment?).

Have you ever tried a masturbation aid? There are many such items on the market. Some, like the “Fleshlight” can get quite expensive, but there are many cheaper items that work just as well. You can check them out here if you like. However, if you don't want him to ejaculate, I recommend using a desensitizing cream on his penis first. Otherwise, you are liable to ruin all your fun when you were just getting started.

I don't know about the rest of you, but sometimes I hate getting all that lubrication on my hands. But I found a great solution to that problem! Rubber gloves! Now, you are probably thinking about those Nitrile gloves like the hospitals use. No, no, no! What you want are dish-washing gloves. You can obtain them just about anywhere. They have raised ridges, bumps, or even a grid pattern that helps you pickup those slippery dishes. Well, those grippers can work wonders on the male body, especially the penis! And you can always make him clean them up when you are done.

Finally, try using a penis extender. You can obtain them wherever you buy your sex toys. If want to look at a few, here is a link to some for you. You might still want to use some desensitizing cream on his penis, but don't worry, he will stay hard while you ride him to as many orgasms as you want. And, of course, you can always make him wait until next time for his orgasm.

Mistress Ivey