Feelings

No, I am not going to break out into song. You're welcome. However, I am going to talk about feelings. Everyone has them. But it amazes me how many people can't seem to express them. Especially when it counts the most... to their spouse. Admit it. You have feeling that you are either afraid to express, or afraid of what your spouse will think of you if you do express them.

Well, I am here to tell you that keeping things bottled up is NEVER a good thing. Have you ever wanted your husband to understand certain feelings that you have, maybe toward sex, but you just could not seem to express them in a way that would be non-threatening? Or maybe there was something that you wanted to do that you thought (or were taught) would be considered too “kinky” for him?

Well, I am here to tell you that your husband has some of those same feelings. In fact, he is so afraid to tell you because, well, it's just not “manly” to have those kinds of feelings. Men, you know what I am talking about. I have a quote from a woman I respect for her work in the area of female led relationships. Tell me, gentlemen, that this does not strike home.

“These feelings you have had for years. you want to be dominated, controlled, and told what to do and when. you feel like you have to have this. you want to serve a strong, caring, loving, consistent, firm, dominant person. You will obey, serve, and please. Not out of fear, but because it's what you crave to do, you live for it. Living by set rules and expectations is not only what you desire and crave, it just seems right.

you think these feelings are strange, you are afraid to tell anyone. you keep it to yourself. you think you are the only one like this. you also think people will believe you weak or unintelligent. Let Me tell you, you are not alone. More men have these feelings and will admit it than you know. It is very natural. Also you are probably driven, educated, strong. you don't want to lead. you want to give yourself over to the Mistress in your life.”

If this is you, and you have no one in your life to tell this to, then you need to check out “Ivey's Keys” for yourself. You might just be surprised by what you find there. And Ladies, if your husband has indicated that he has these feelings and you just don't know how to handle it, You should join him. Or maybe you want to learn more about how to handle those feelings you know that he has. Again, join us at “Iveys' Keys” and learn what you need to know to live a happier, more fulfilling life with him.

Mistress Ivey

An Addendum

Yes, we have moved! But we have upgraded the New Website as well.

We now accept BOTH male and Female submissives and Keyholders!

When we first began this project, it was just a concept to bring male subs  and female dominants

together. But with a little tweaking her and there, we were able to adapt everything to hand female subs and male dominants as well.

Now we truly have a website for just about everyone who is into D/s relationships but has not (yet) found the right counterpart to their particular desires. So if you are into D/s and want to put a little more spice into your life, or just need someone to be a yang to your yeng, we can help!

Everyone is invited! Join us and have fun even if you are deep into a healthy D/s relationship of your own. You can BOTH join and have a lifetime of fun together!

Mistress Ivey

We Are Moving!

We are moving this blog to another website. I know what an inconvenience that will be for many of you. I will try to get a feed going as soon as possible so that you won't miss anything, if you get my posts through a feed.

As for the New Website, it serves a dual purpose: 1) To contain my blog with a better interface and more to do; and 2) To allow me to run the other part of my site without having to keep switching back and forth.

So... “What is the other side of your new website?” you ask. It is a Member's Only website created by nemo. It is a website for submissives, wives, Keyholders, and Mistresses to have some fun. For men, we will provide a “Keyholding” service for those who don't have anyone else to control things like, orgasms, chastity, behavior, etc.

We will be providing a place for women to come and learn the ropes, ask questions, and get answers. They can even turn their submissive partners over to us so they can get a little R&R as it were. We will give you the chance to relax while we “steer the boat” for awhile.

We NEED Keyholders as well! If you are experienced, or just want to learn how to do it, we invite you to join us in the “Keyholder's Group” where you can learn some tricks, earn some cash, and have some fun while doing it.

This will be the last post on this blog site.

The new site is located athttp;//iveyspage.com (Ivey's Keys) At least come a check us out.

Mistress Ivey

What? Again?

My husband and I have been working on a new website. Really? I thought you were sick? Yes, well... The ideas are mine, he does all the work.

Many of you have not participated in the poll I posted last week. It's a little disappointing, but I can understand. After all, you have no information on which to base your vote. Well, let me change all that.

I have always had too many men wanting me to be their Mistress... Their Keyholder, as it were. My problem was, and still is, I don't really have time to keep up with all the basic requirements of handling a submissive. I am sure that many of you other Ladies feel the same way. I mean, you have to be ready at a moments notice to assign tasks, dole out punishments, and think of new things for your submissive to do, just to keep him happy. Not to mention trying to keep up with your own day to day activities.

Truth Or Dare?

Truth or Dare?

Anyone want to play? You know the game and have probably played it a time or two. But our Webmaster has just come up a version that should be fun for everyone. If you are one of those that frequents Dungeon Parties, or any other type of “Adult” get together, then you should check this game out.

Women... Is your hubby all locked up and you have been looking for a way to introduce another woman (Mistress) into the mix? Or maybe you have had thoughts of cuckolding him. Okay, the cuckolding thing was probably his idea, but here's a way to find out if it would actually be something he is okay with, or if it is just a fantasy of his.

Go to “The Dare Games” website and check it out. Just click on the “Truth? Or Dare?” in the menu on the right-hand side of the page. It will take you to an introduction to the game as it is played on our new website. It's a great game to play at a dungeon party, or any time you want to play a sexy game with three players or more.

Invite a couple of friends over and have a wonderful evening. Just like when you were kids. It can bring some life back to your marriage even if it has not seemed to be lacking. Many groups are beginning to add this kind of sexual game play with others who are open to it. It can turn out to be a regular thing.

Try it! Even if it's just two of you, you get hooked on it.

Mistress Ivey

Implements of Pain & Pleasure

*** Before I get started I just wanted to say that I am feeling better. not quite back to normal, but much better than before. If your Doctor tells you to rest... Do it!

My post:

I have talked about discipline and punishment over the years. Now I want to familiarize you with some of the tools (toys as they are called) used punish or just play with. Bare in mind, these are all items that can be used for both pleasure as well as inflicting pain. It all depends on what you use and how you use it.

There are many items designed to be used more for play (pleasure) that won't cause much pain, if any. This is generally because of the materials used in their manufacture. Other items are designed to inflict more pain. These can be used very effectively for punishment, but may also be used to create pleasure, depending on how they are used. For example, any flogger can be used to create pleasure simply by dragging it across the skin without hitting. You can also giggle the handle so that the ends of the tails 'dance' over the skin creating a very pleasurable sensation.

DON'T Iggnore Him!

I have learned a few things about being a “Good Mistress” since my illness took hold of me. It seems that there things you can do even when you are “under the weather” (so to speak) as I have been for many months now. With little to do and not being able to get out much, I have been re-reading some of my own books. Don't you just hate it when you were right, but then didn't heed your own advice!?

It doesn't take much energy to tease your partner. I'm not talking about spending an hour with him tied to bed, but rather, only a few minutes here and there. If release from chastity (or lack there of) seems to be a problem, It takes no energy at all to lock the bedroom door and have him masturbate while you give him directions (or tease him about his technique). In fact, since we have a nice clear shower door, I can even sit just outside it and direct him while he is showering. Talking to him takes so little energy I think I could do it my sleep. Oops! I think I have done that...