How
Should a Keyholder Approach it?
This is one
place where the Internet seems to get it wrong. They seem to think
that you, as the Keyholder should make all the rules, and be as mean
and evil as you can possibly be. Go ahead and try that approach. I'll
wait...
I didn't
think it would take long for you realize that that is the WRONG approach.
I will admit, there are a few men out there who would relish that
type of a Keyholder. If that is what he really wants, then by all
means, give it to him.
I will
admit, many times the “Dream” of a guy who wants to try chastity,
is quite often of a Keyholder ( a woman) that is mean and cruel and
won't give him and inch, much less an orgasm... EVER! But faced with
reality, most men will back off from that kind of relationship. It
just won't work for them. I agree. It won't work for most men. And I
don't think most wives or girlfriends, for that matter, could be that
mean and cruel.
It would be
better to start out nice and easy. Take things slowly. You may find
some things that you like and you can include them in your regular
activities. You may find some that just don't fit what you (or he)
had in mind. There is one area in which you should be strong-willed,
stubborn, hard-headed about, and that is not giving in when
the pleading starts. Yes, there will be pleading. But whatever rules
you have starting out concerning ejaculations and how often they
should be allowed, you need to stick to them. If you said one a week for
the first month and then “we will see” for the time after that,
be sure to allow him one ejaculation per week (for that first month).
Having said
that, there is something you should commit to memory right now...
NEVER say you can have an orgasm on this day or that day. NEVER be
definite about that day. Instead, what you want to do is to promise
him that he can have a “chance for an orgasm,” or “a chance for
an ejaculation.” Putting it that way, opens up the door for you to
extend his lack of ejaculations for as long as you would like. Maybe
indefinitely!?
Now, repeat
after me, “I am giving you a chance to ejaculate today.” Very
good. Why are you not allowed to say, “I am granting you an orgasm
today?” Because, unless, for some strange reason, you have decided
that it IS time to allow him to ejaculate, you don't want him to. But
you want him to think that he has a CHANCE
to cum! You can play a game, or give him a task to perform, or a time
limit, or just about anything you can think of that will make it
almost impossible for him to achieve his goal.
One last
thing... Before you begin this journey into male chastity, you should
sit down and talk with your partner and discuss things like release
dates, amount of teasing he is to get, and limits. Limits are
something that your partner (or you) flatly refuse to do. There may
be a lot of them, but you should know what they are before you begin.
Also, you will need a method of signaling that something “new”
falls under a limit he had not thought of. Remember, safety first!
Have fun
and remember the word, “Chance!”
nemo
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