I haven't really written much on this subject. Even in my books I didn't go into great depth. So, here is a little information to help get you started, if this is something you think you might enjoy.
First of all, let me be clear for those who might not be aware of it. “Pegging,” as it is often called, is the act of using a strap-on dildo in order to have anal sex with your partner. This is not something that appeals to everyone, but I have been surprised at how many men actually want their wives to engage in this type of activity.
I will not get into the psychological aspects of pegging or what it might represent to certain people. I have found that the reasons men have for enjoying it vary greatly. Women also enjoy in engaging in pegging for a wide variety of reasons. But the best reason I can think of for doing it is that it can be fun for both parties.
Warning: Anal sex of any kind can be painful! Especially at first. Once a man gets used to doing it though, the pain will ease and his enjoyment will increase.
Here are a few tips for those of you who have never tried pegging, but think you might want to.
- Always use MORE lubrication than you think you need! I can't emphasize this enough. The general rule is: When you think you have enough lubrication... Double it!
- Always start off easy. Don't try to use a huge dildo, at least, not at first. Work your way up to the larger ones if you feel the need.
- Be gentle! Remember, unless you are the cruel type, his anus is not as used to pain as the rest of his butt might be.
- Enjoy yourself! If you can do it without making him scream for you to stop, chances are, you can both get many years of enjoyment from this type of sexual activity.
There are a number of possible positions you can use while pegging your partner as well. You can bend him over a chair or couch, you can lay him out face-up on a table or the bed. You can use just about any position that can be used for “normal” intercourse. But, of course, the roles are reversed.
As I said at the beginning, I am surprised by the number of men who actually WANT to be pegged. What doesn't surprise me is how many of them are afraid to bring up the subject with their partners. So if it's is something you think you would like to try, by all means, do so. If you think your partner is too embarrassed to tell you that he wants to try it, I suggest that you bring up the subject some time when there is no pressure on wither of you, such while riding in your car together.
Well, there you have it. It isn't that complicated a thing. Nor is it that uncommon. I am sure that it is more common than even I know. So, don't be afraid to give it a try. You can always start out by simply pushing a small dildo or vibrator into his well lubricated bottom to get his reaction. If he enjoys that, he will surely enjoy pegging.
The only major difference is that pegging can give you both the feeling that YOU are definitely the one in charge. Happy pegging...