Discipline

I have found, over the years, that people don't always understand the difference between punishment and discipline. The fact is, there is no strict division between them. It can depend on many different things to different people.

I normally define discipline as a form of punishment that teaches a lesson of some sort. There are those who would argue that a severe spanking teaches a lesson, but I am not talking about that kind of lesson. For example, you can spank (or paddle) your sub for not making the bed the way you want it, but unless you spend a great deal of time making sure they can actually do it your way, they will never learn the lesson through corporal punishment (a spanking). You need to spend a little time helping them learn the correct of doing what you expect hem to do.

In our example, if showed your guy exactly how you want the bed to look, and he still keeps doing it wrong, it may be that he really doesn't understand it. If you stand over him, giving him detailed directions as he make the bed, then he has a better chance of getting it right. Now, if you make him repeat it a dozen times, THAT is discipline!

Many men, I have discovered, actually enjoy the occasional paddling. Because of that, I have adopted a more disciplinary approach when it comes to getting exactly what I want. I have found that making a guy repeat a task over and over until he gets it right (several times in a row) works quite well. Yes, it takes more of my time, and he enjoys the attention, but he is less likely to make the same mistake again.

That's my lesson for the today...

Mistress Ivey