The True Femdom

I have read a great deal of late concerning Femdom and BDSM as it relates to chastity and the average couple. I would like to take a step back and help you to understand how what I profess is different than what you see on most of the Internet and TV or even in the movies.

I had a friend ask me if I thought HBO, Showtime, or Max would ever do a show about Femdom. My answer was “yes and no” simply because of they way they do it. Companies like these only want to incorporate things like chastity or Femdom if they can appeal to the desires of the masses. By that I mean, they want the sensational not the mundane. So would they do a show about Femdom or Female Led Relationships? Yes, but would they show these things as they truly are or would they only show the preconceived notions that already exist.

For example, sitting in a restaurant, looking at the other patrons, it's fun to wonder which might be in a Femdom or FL relationship. For example, is that guy over there in the suit wearing a butt-plug his wife inserted before they left the house? What about the fellow over there? Is he eating what his wife ordered for him even though it may not be what he wanted? Those are the people living a Femdom relationship. You may not be able to tell them from any other couple on the street, but they are there.

If you watch their behavior long enough, you might get a clue or two. He might open doors for his wife, or pull out her chair, or even stand when she gets up from the table. He might open her car door before walking to the other side to drive. You might hear him say, “yes, Ma'am” several times during their conversation. Yes, a great deal of things might be indicators, or they might simply be a sign of good manners. It's hard to tell. But that is my point.

Just because the woman is not dressed in a leather corset with fishnet stockings, high heels, or carrying a riding crop, does not mean they are not into BDSM, Femdom, or FLR at some level. You can't judge a couple by what you see, or don't see. But just because you are into these sorts of things, does not mean that you have to flaunt it. In fact, I don't see why a woman in an FLR or who considers herself a Femdom, would ever have to dress up like that.

So don't be put off of male chastity, or FLR's or even BDSM simply because of what you see on the internet, or HBO. Do what you are comfortable with and disregard the rest.

Mistress Ivey