What is CFNM

For those who are not aware, CFNM stands for Clothed Female Nude (or naked) Male. This begs the question of just how popular CFNM is. Well, there are numerous web sites dedicated to CFNM if that tells you anything. It must be fairly popular or there would not be that many web sites dedicated to it.

Having established that it is even remotely popular begs the question, “Are you playing with your partner while dressed?” It might surprise you to learn that many men (subs, slaves, chastity boys, etc.) actually love that sort of thing. On top of that, there are a number of them who never even thought about it. They haven't thought about it because their Mistress always plays with them wearing some sort of lingerie, fetish-wear or nothing at all.

The truth is, playing with a naked man while you are clothed can be a big turn-on for him, and possibly you, too. My slave loves to be played with either blindfolded or while I am fully dressed. It's a small thing that can cause a slight bit of humiliation. Think about it this way, being naked in a room full of naked people is not nearly as humiliating as being the only naked person in the room. I think we all know that. So it stands to reason that if he is naked and your are not, it will be slightly humiliating to him.

You should try it sometime. Maybe invite a few of your kinky friends over to enjoy his humiliation. He'll probably love you for it.

Mistress Ivey

The Doll

I have written about using humiliation as a way of sexually teasing your sub to heighten both his sexual excitement and your own pleasure. Of course, there are many ways of humiliating any man (sexually) but if you into using humiliation as a means of asserting your control, ow just because you both love it, you will want to find something that works for you both.

Every man is different (duh), so you need find out exactly what works best on yours. Here's a suggestion that will work on most men regardless of who they are. I once tried this on a sub (I no longer have) and really enjoyed the experience. Now, I can't swear that this will work for you, but it can be a great deal of fun finding out. This particular method is always best when done as a total surprise to him. Odds are, he will be totally humiliated and you will both get a great deal out of the experience.

Buy yourself an inflatable doll. You know the type, you have seen them in the adult stores, both online and real stores. They are often given as a joke at bachelor and bachelorette parties, birthday parties etc. Who knows, your guy may have actually used one before. Be sure to get a fairly inexpensive one. The reason for this is that you don't want it to look to realistic. After all, it will be more humiliating the cheaper it looks. Make sure it has all the best features. You know, “Greek” and “French” features as well as “natural Missionary” features (3 holes). Now you could spend upward of $700 for a a life-like pose-able doll, but I recommend you spend under $30 for something really humiliating.

Once you have your doll, you can do any number of things with it. Here are a few suggestions:

• Teach him to treat his “Mistress” right by sexually satisfying her while you watch. Make him use her mouth, her anus, and her “pussy” as per your instructions.
• Teach him to properly clean up after himself (orally).
• Take him and his doll to a group meeting and make him demonstrate different methods sexually pleasing her.
• Take a video of him performing with his doll and upload it to one of the many adult video sights on the web.

As you will probably learn, once you start searching for the “right” doll, there are also male dolls as well as transvestite dolls. You can use any of these depending what you want to teach your man or what kind of humiliation you wish to inflict upon him.

The fun you can have with this are unlimited. Use your imagination and see what kinds of things you can come up with. Don't forget to have fun with it. After all, that's whole point, isn't it? Send me an email or make a comment here once you have tried it and let me know how it went.

Mistress Ivey