Masturbation

If you don't know how to masturbate raise your hands... Both of them.

Somehow I knew there would be no hands up. But that's NOT what this post is about. This post is about using masturbation as a form of tease and denial (T&D).

For a man, only another person (a woman?) can please him sexually more than he can please himself. Not so with a woman. We are lucking in that. Usually, a woman can please herself more than anyone else. So I think it is safe to say, if there is not a woman involved in your sex-life, then you are doing something wrong!

Tease & Denial Should Be FUN!

Obviously, tease and denial (T&D) is fun for the recipient. No matter how many times you do it, he (or she, for that matter) will always want more. But if it is not fun for the teaser, or if it becomes monotonous, the teaser (you) will eventually stop doing it. You may even resent doing it.

I have always said, “Imagination is the key to sexual pleasure.” If you don't have the imagination you need to keep things fresh for the both of you, you will begin to look at it as a chore instead of an enjoyable activity.

Sexual Control

It's all about sexual control. Control a man's sexual outlets and you control the man. If you control when, where, and how he gets to ejaculate, he will be putty in your hands. Punish him when he displeases you, and he will worship at your feet.

Now, of course, the word “punish” can be interpreted in many ways. Whether you choose to use corporal punishment, or withholding sexual pleasure, makes little (or no) difference. The important thing is that you maintain control.