Over the past two years I have received
many complements and complaints from my readers. Thankfully, the
complaints have been few and mainly centered around one issue,
premature ejaculation during teasing. The question everyone seems to
have is, “how can you tease a guy when he shoots his load at the
slightest touch?”
To me, the simplest answer is, use a
lighter touch. That is, if your fingers seem to set him off too
easily, try angora, a soft brush, or even silk panties. Try anything
that will reduce the amount of actual stimulation (friction) and
increase the amount of mental stimulation. That is, tease his mind
more than his penis.
I know there are men out there who can
actually achieve an orgasm without even being touched, but they are
few and far between. So unless your partner is one of these, I
suggest that you tease him by touching his penis less. Instead, try
touching his nipples, his balls, even his bottom or his anus. There
are guys who will get extremely excited when you touch their feet.
Experiment. Find out what works and what doesn't work with your guy.
Now, it's not all up to you. If your
guy is one of those who shoots off too fast, he needs to work on the
problem from his perspective as well. He needs to figure out how to
hold back, if even just a little. Once he finds a method that will
help him hold back a little, he should concentrate on maximizing his
abilities in that area. For example, it may be that if he can learn
to keep his cock expanded, that is, at its most erect. He may be able
to hold off for a few seconds to a minute or more once he has
practiced it for awhile.
To understand what I mean, have him try
to make his cock as hard as he can. There are certain muscles he
needs to utilize to do this. Once he figures out which muscles
control it, he can practice exercising those muscles until he can
continuously squeeze them for an extended period of time. At least
long enough to tell you that you need to back off for a minute so
that he can relax.
Some men have told me that if they can
manage to keep certain muscles from clinching (tightening) they can
hold off an orgasm for quite awhile. However, it is difficult
learning which muscles those are and keeping them relaxed during a
tease session is something that will take lots of practice.
There is one other way to extend a
tease session for a quick-shooter. Allow the first orgasm to happen.
Of course, it should be ruined whenever possible, but allowing it to
happen will simply get it out of the way and the teasing can then
continue. If the orgasm happens to be a full orgasm, then I find you
have no other recourse than to engage in a some post orgasmic
torment. Grab that cock with one hand and rub the head with the palm
of the other for as long as you can. I say as long as you can simply
because if your guy is not bound he will stop you. But
at this point, that's all you can do. Treat it like a punishment for
not warning you in time for you to ruin the orgasm, or prevent it
altogether.
The final method I have to offer to
those of you with preemies (premature ejaculators), is don't touch
his cock until (and if) you intend for him to cum. That is, simply
tease his mind. Tell him fantasies, make him watch videos of other
women teasing their men, or anything else you can do without actually
touching his cock. Don't allow him to touch it either. After all,
your goal in teasing him is to keep him hard for as long as you can
(or want to) without allowing him any kind of release.
So, in summation, there are ways of
handling this problem (or even working around it) in order to
accomplish your goal. Stick to it, be inventive, and you will find a
way. Please write me and let know what you do to handle your preemie.
I could use a few more ideas myself.
Mistress Ivey
