Thursday, July 26, 2012

How to Control Your Man

I have done my research over the years and have been trying to find a way to sum it all up in a simple form. Well, here it is. If you want to control your husband, lover, male counterpart, submissive, or whatever, here is a guide that should be of some help. It is by no means a complete, in-depth discourse, but should be enough to get you started.

Also, if you, yourself, feel a bit timid, or guilty about doing or saying some of the things your partner wants (or needs) to hear, then you have to remember, you are doing it because you love him and he does it because he loves you. Don't push him harder than he can stand, but always push to find his limits. Once you find them, respect them, but keep on pushing them.

The following is a list of things that you should be doing. Not everything will apply in every case, and there may be things not on the list that work for you. Don't hesitate to leave a comment for all to read, or write me if what you have to say is more personal.

  1. You must absolutely take total control of his orgasms!
    1. You must get him to wear a chastity device of some kind.
    2. You should put it on him yourself and only you should hold the key.
    3. Let him out at your discretion only and only for teasing or release.

  1. Control your own feelings of guilt.
    1. He should never be permitted to have any kind of orgasm without your permission.
    2. If you feel he deserves an orgasm... Ruin it!
    3. Remember, you can ruin several orgasms a day, but he can only have one full one.
    4. Full orgasms should be for very special occasions (no more than 3 or 4 per year).

  1. You must get into his head!
    1. Learn his fantasies and what turns him on.
    2. Tease him with your words whenever possible.
    3. Find out what humiliates him.
    4. Use his humiliation whenever possible.

  1. You must keep him sexually aroused as much as possible.
    1. Talk sexy to him.
    2. Tell him you are going to make him do something humiliating.
    3. Fondle him, or let him fondle you.
    4. Send him text messages with orders to do something sexual.
    5. Make him give you orgasms frequently.

  1. Make him do something humiliating (see list below).
    1. Make him wear a butt-plug for a time.
    2. Make him be naked when you are not.
    3. Make him masturbate for you.
    4. Always, ALWAYS make him eat his own cum no matter where it is deposited.

  1. Punish him whenever he displeases you.
    1. Don't let him get away with anything!
    2. Spank, paddle, or whip him.
    3. Humiliate him in some way.
    4. Put Bengay or Icy-Hot on his cock, balls, or anus.
    5. Make him do anything he hates.

  1. No matter what you are doing, or where you are, find ways to tease him.
    1. Fondle him through his pants in public (or in private).
    2. Whisper sexy or humiliating things in his ear.
    3. Make him shop for lingerie with you.

Men are all different. Thus, different things turn them on and different things humiliate them. Here is a list of things that humiliate many men. This list is by no means complete, nor will every man be turned on by everything on the list. It is up to you to discover what works and what doesn't. Sometimes, only the threat of these things is enough to turn him on. Humiliation can be used as a punishment as well. Find out which ones and you can control his behavior through the threat of it.


  1. Name calling (stupid, worthless, etc.)
  2. Belittling him or his “equipment” (tiny dick, little willy, etc.)
  3. Forced cross-dressing
  4. Wearing women's clothing (maids outfit?) anywhere
  5. Shopping for lingerie (for you or for him)
  6. Wearing a butt-plug in public
  7. Masturbating in a public restroom
  8. Wearing women's panties or pantyhose under street clothes
  9. Masturbating for you or a group
  10. Eating his own (or other men's) cum
  11. Shave his genitals yourself, then make him keep them clean shaven
  12. Sexually servicing several women
  13. Telling others about your lifestyle
  14. Prostate or other type of milking
  15. Being naked around the house
  16. Anal penetration (dildo, strap-on, etc.)
  17. Sex with an inflatable doll
  18. Suck a realistic dildo
  19. Being naked outdoors
  20. Being photographed (or video recorded)
  21. Post photos or videos to the web
  22. Forced bi-sexuality (make him suck another's cock)
  23. Being cuckolded
  24. Drinking your urine
  25. Doing just about anything sexual to himself while you or others watch

The thing to remember is that you don't have to make him actually do these things. Just implying that you “might” may be enough of a turn on. It's up to you to discover what works with your man and what doesn't.

Mistress Ivey


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  2. I long for you to be my mistress

  3. I long for you to be my mistress