Fun With CBT

I get a great number of questions regarding cock and ball torture (CBT) and I am never quite sure how to answer them. While some men may thoroughly enjoy one type of CBT, another type might really put them off. Then there is the inherent danger. The penis and testicles (cock and balls) can be quite delicate. That is, they can be permanently damaged if you are not careful.

Having said that, let's take a look a few things you can do as long as you take care NOT to over do any of them. That is, don't go to extremes. If in doubt, don't do it.

Weights: Adding weights to a man's balls in order to cause slight (or severe) pain is a common method of CBT. The easiest way to accomplish this is simply to wrap a thin rope or string (I like using round boot laces) around the ball sack just above the balls several times and tie it off. If you have enough string left at both ends you can tie them together forming a loop under the balls. To this loop, you can attach weights. Purchase your weights in the fishing aisle of your favorite department store. They come in many different sizes and can be attached to the string using Christmas tree ornament hooks.

There are a number of apparatae (apparatuses?) that can be purchased from just about any online sex shop to make this easier. But I don't recommend you spend a great deal of money on something you discover you don't want to use. There are 'parachutes' that work well. They consist of a conical-shaped piece of leather with (usually) three chains that attach to a ring. These chains dangle below the balls and you attach your weights to the ring. Whatever you choose to do, PLEASE start out slow. Don't go adding a 25Lb weight your first time out. Start with something that only weighs a few ounces first.

Binding: Using the same string I described above, you can tie up your guy's jewels just about any way you like. You can get fancy by wrapping his penis from tip to base. You can make a fishnet type binding, or you can just tie a string to the tip and see how much weight he can “list” when he gets really turned on. Of course you can always involve the balls when binding the penis. Just don't leave it on him all day unless you have tied him loosely (what fun would that be?). Anytime you start binding the cock and balls you risk cutting off the flow of blood. That can be dangerous. So limit the time you leave any bindings on.

Motor-Boat: This is fun (for you, not so much him) thing to try. Wrap a string around his cock starting at the base and working your way to the tip. Don't tie either end to anything. Once you have him all wrapped up, take the end nearest the tip and pull it straight out from his body. It's like pulling the string to start a motor-boat, thus, the name. It's fun and reasonably harmless.

Electro-shock: This is my personal favorite. You can purchase (yes you have to buy something for this one) any number of types and styles of electro-shock devices. Most online sex toy stores carry a variety of them. By attaching the electrodes to various places on and around his genitals, you can achieve all sorts of results. Most devices have the capability to adjust the intensity of the shock and/or the waveform used. All I can tell you about this type of CBT is that it is FUN! Just make sure you ALWAYS turn down the settings before trying it in a new spot. (I learned that from experience.)

Clips & Clamps: There are many other types of CBT as well. Try waxing the hair off his balls, applying some duct tape, or just sticking some regular tape to the hairy spots. Ripping it off is so much fun and fairly harmless. You can use any of a number of clips and clamps made especially for CBT (or nipples) but my favorite of these is that old standby... clothespins. I recommend the cheap ones because they have weaker springs.

I DO NOT recommend hitting, his balls with anything. Gentle slaps or finger thumps should be your limit. Serious injury can result from anything harder. He may be able to take the pain, but his genitals may not take the damage well.

CBT can be fun when you do it right. Just don't risk doing damage and you should be fine.

Mistress Ivey

To Milk or Not to Milk

I have written about this subject several times, but it has become clear to me that many of you, especially those of you who are new to it, are having difficulty with prostate milking. First of all, let's get one thing clear... There has been a great deal of discussion about the value and purpose of prostate milking. I have not been able to find one definitive study on the subject of prostate milking for health reasons. One camp says that if a guy is not allowed to ejaculate for an extended period he should have his prostate milked (for health reasons). On the other hand, I have found no proof that any damage is caused from prolonged abstinence. In other words, do it if you think you need to, don't if you don't want to. I know for a fact that many men (past and present) who practice abstinence with no side effects what so ever. So I don't feel it is a serious problem.

Having gotten that out of the way, let me talk about 'blue-balls' for a second. I'll bet you didn't know that blue-balls is actually a short term malady that effects men when they first start tease and denial. Yep. When you stimulate the male cock into arousal and don't allow it release, his semen will build up in his system as his body prepares itself over and over again for release that never comes (pun intended). But after a while, his body gets used to not being able to release all that excess semen and it quits making so much. It takes from one to two weeks for this to happen, but once it does, his blue-balls will go away.

So what can prostate milking do for you (or him)? Simply put, it can relieve his body of excess semen so that it will once again begin to think it needs to replenish the supply. In other words, he can get blue-balls again! Blue-balls are not as bad as people might like to think. They are an aching in the groin (and possibly the balls) that makes his balls more sensitive to the touch (or the punch, as might be the case).

So what does all this mean to you? Nothing really, but if you want to practice prostate milking for any number of reasons, including, but not limited to, humiliation, be my guest. The problem I most often hear from women who try is trouble getting anything out. First of all, don't stick your finger in as far as you can get it (unless you have pretty short fingers). When you can feel the sphincter tighten around your second knuckle, you are probably in far enough. It may take you many tries before you get the hang of it, and don't expect to get copious amounts of ejaculate every time, especially when you are just starting out. I read a Doctor's note about that once and in it he stated that five or six drops is about all you will get on someone who does not practice it often.

So, in conclusion, use lots of lubricant, wear protective gloves, and try it for at least 10 minutes as often as you can. Before long, you will become good at it. Once you have done it successfully, you will know what works best on your guy. So keep practicing even though you may not get results. The humiliation of having it done (successful or not) will be enough to keep your guy happy.

Mistress Ivey