“As long as I keep you from having an
orgasm, you'll agree to do anything I want?” The answer to that
question when asked of a man on the edge of orgasm is invariably,
“Yes.”
Don't believe me? Try it sometime! Of
course, once he has had an orgasm his entire attitude will, most
likely, change. That is, unless it is something he doesn't mind doing
in the first place. For example, many men are willing to drink their
own cum, so asking him to that might not change with an orgasm. But
what about sucking another man's cock? Not many will do that without
the proper incentive. In fact, I have found that most women who
actually want their partner (slave, subbie, boy toy, or what have
you) to do something often ask this question in the wrong way.
What do I mean by that? Here's an
example of asking the wrong question (or asking in the wrong way);
“Will you suck another man's cock if I let you cum?” Do you see
how that puts his reward before he has completed his part of the
bargain? Instead, try asking the question this way; “I will let you
cum if you first suck another man's cock.” Or, “You can have an
orgasm as soon as you have sucked another man's cock.” See the
difference? If you really want your victim to perform something he
would not ordinarily do (perhaps something humiliating) promise him a
reward only after he has completed the task.
I know that many woman have difficulty
learning to talk erotically to their partners during sex. Because of
this, they tend to be timid when it comes to psychological torment.
You may never want your partner to suck another man's cock (just for
example) but making him think that you will can be very sexually
arousing to him. Obviously, if you are only attacking his psyche with
your play, you would want to ask the question differently. Instead of
making him perform the task before his reward, you simply want him to
agree to complete that task. That is, you want him to say that he
will suck another man's cock (or drink his own cum, or dress like a
woman, or whatever the task is) before receiving his reward.
Ladies, please understand the
difference. Every man who enjoys being sexually teased (and they all
do) has fantasies of things he would love to be “forced” to do.
He also has a list of things that he likes to fantasize about being
forced to do but would never really do under any circumstances. Your
job, as his tormentor, is to learn what these things are and which
are which. Then, and only then, can you really keep your partner on
his toes and torment his mind as well as his body properly.
In answer to all the questions I've
received on the subject... Yes you can make your guy agree to
anything as long as you keep him from having that orgasm.
Mistress Ivey
