Well, guys... Now it's your turn! I get so many complaints from men and women alike, that their partner is not doing their part. When I look more closely at the relationship, I so often find that the guy is trying to top from the bottom. Put simply, they tell their wives (or partners) just exactly what to do, how to dress, when and how to punish them, and/or tease them.
Guys... You can't do that and expect your partner to just fall in line. It doesn't work that way. If your partner is not all “gung ho” about taking control, she will NOT be what you were hoping she would be. Not even close. Telling her what and how to do things is never going to work. Period!
The best approach is one in which you educate your partner and find things that she might enjoy doing, or having done for her. She needs to do some research. Who knows better than you where to send her for the information YOU want her to have? No one. So if she sounds even a little bit open to working with you in setting up an FLR (or whatever name you want to call it), give her time to do her research.
Maybe you can make it a joint venture. You know where to go, so go there together and let her read things for herself, or read them together. Read her stories that illustrate the kinds of things you enjoy. Ask her if any of what you read interests her. If it does, build on that. If not, read her something else. Keep going until you find something that she says she might enjoy doing.
Once you cross that first hurtle, the rest is easy. Make an agreement that simply states that you will do such-and-such and that she will do something specific as well. For example, you will wash the dishes and take out the trash every night if she will spend ten minutes playing with your cock. Then try it for a week or so. Keep helping her do research, however she wants to do it. Then, when she finds something else she would like to try, add it to your agreement.
Now you are on your way. Don't push her, that will be counter productive. It will NEVER work! Instead, lead her toward those things that she finds interesting or fun. Remember, it's a game of give and take. Don't try to do it all. Neither of you will be happy in the end and your attempt at an FLR will fail. Just relax, enjoy those parts that you can, and let nature take its course. It will.